That makes sense, Aleph. But it would be good for folks here to remember that some of us--not all, by any means, but some, me included--have not had an easy time in relation to this kind of language.
I spent my whole life being told I'd be beautiful if only I were thinner. Then I come here, to escape that, and am still told I'd be beautiful if I were thinner (both overtly and subtly), but sometimes that I'd be beautiful if only I were fatter. Sigh. You see what I mean. If one is vulnerable--for whatever reasons--to those kinds of judgments, it isn't an easy ride.
16 years