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Hello everyone. I would like people who are in a relationship with someone who is not a feedee and get their advice. I’m trying to get comfortable with this fetish. In the future I want to have a relationship where I can indulge in this fetish. At the same time I want me future boyfriend to be heathy and I want to have a heathland lifestyle with him. The problem is every time I see a guy I’m interested in I just think about if they weighed a little more and if I find out they are excersising a part of me feels disappointed because they goes against my feedee desires. I would never put my sexuality above my partners health but I feel like when I am in a relationship I will be constantly thinking about what they ate or what they did that day. I just feel like this fetish will get in the way of having a proper heathly relationship. I want to have a partner who will excerize with me but i fear that in the future I will internally not want them to because it could result in them getting chubbier. I also feel bad that a part of me is sexually turned off by someone who is healthy because of this damn fetish. I just feel so scared and confused

Sounds like you've got a lot on your mind. So, I'm a feedee who was once in a relationship with someone who wasn't a feeder. I never told them about my fetish, and they were trying to lose weight when we got together, so my trying to gain sometimes was put in the backseat because I cared about their health. It's a different balance for sure, but you just have to figure out what you want to get out of a long term relationship and find someone who fits the bill, then be open and honest with them about your expectations and what you want or don't want. I think venting your feelings as you've done here could do some good in clearing out your head some.