John Smith:
Personally, I don't have any set limits about a woman's weight.
Although I recognize than having sometimes to frequent or woo after someone who shed a visible amount of weight could sometimes affect my judgment out of feeling a little turned off, yet not enough to deconsider having to maintain whatever relationship or cue of connection we have.
Some women I used to frequent did seek to lose weight for various motives, whether rational, emotional, self-stigmatizing, driven by any form of social pressures or a mix of both: non of their resulting losses were the reason why we stopped to frequent each other.
I agree with all the above, and my experience/behavior is similar.
just visualize Andrea Abeli, but all-natural and homegrown... and you get why some people never get why she has grown so complexed about her once-fuller-figured silhouette. Whose young woman within my generation truly desire to get rid of a set of beachball-sized rear cheeks jutting far enough to carry a glass, a set of plump thighs, a 38DDD bosom and a 44-30-46 at the turn of the 21th century??
An unusual choice to want to leave that sort of body configuration, but people have their reasons and often make choices which seem strange to others who aren’t them.
But to be honest, I'm more interested about anyone else's own experiences dealing with a partner's changing bodyweight and appareance.
Good deal. My experiences are far fewer than what you’ve reported in various other posts, but i do have one.
The Internet romance that brought my then-love from Maine to California for us to be together started with her around approx. 275 pounds at 172 cm/5' 8" tall. Big belly, medium thighs, medium butt, almost no hip curve, small breasts. Somewhat muscular build: more solid than soft (apart from her belly and inner thighs and buns). U.S. sizing 28W down below and 3x up above. Gaining had already been discussed and removed from possibility before we made arrangements to live together. She was quite far from my body ideal, but we’d bonded in love over shared interests, compatible personalities, and other reasons. She was open to maintaining her fatness roughly at its present level as long as her health permitted.
Metabolic Syndrome and other un-health issues arose within a few years. Related to my own health situation and things i’d learned, we pooled information/knowledge for her health. Weight/fat loss was never the primary goal, but was expected to at least partially happen as a side-effect of her lifestyle and dietary changes, and some new nutritional supplements.
My sexual interest diminished somewhat along with her fat loss, however at that time we remained a loving couple. Neither of us kept records of her weight, sizes, etc., so i can’t say when the changes took place, other than gradually over time, and non-linearly though never that i can recall anything dramatic (nothing at all like some of what you’ve experienced in terms of sudden changes. Thanks for posting those; fascinating reading).
What killed our romantic/intimate/sexual love was some combination of the near-death stuff i went through in my mid-40s and especially her utter loss of libido as she entered her 50s. I had been happily asexual as a teenager, so i understood how she could feel that way as menopause and/or new prescription meds did their thing for her particular body/genetics/etc., even though it was personally devastating to me to live in a home with a BBW whom not only could i not have sex with, but could no longer kiss, hug, or touch in any way.
We still live together as housemates and i still do the laundry, so i know that she’s down to 2x up top and from an initial drop to 26W years ago is currently wearing 20W pants.
If her romantic feelings hadn’t utterly vanished, i’d likely still be physically loving her. Different than apparently you and many people, never in my life have i experienced a range of different lovers and their different bodies (and personalities and so on). I’m focusing a lot of energy that way now. My former True Love and i officially cancelled our love contract about 11 years ago, so i’m assuredly available.
