sweet_cuddles:🙋🏼♀️ Here! But I already found my bhm
I always liked and flirted with chubby and fat boys from the beginning when I started getting crushes. I think there are girls out there that find big men attractive but let society scare them into not wanting to be open. I was teased off and on for always going after the fat boys, I even had a mom of an ex bf ask me if I was a chubby chaser lol. BUT I liked what I liked and didn't give a eff who thought I was unusual. I think finding a confident girl is harder.
Congrats on your relationship! I was one of those girls who was afraid to pursue a relationship with a bhm because I was afraid of being judged for it, especially because I'm very thin myself. But after agonizing over the "should I? shouldn't I?" of asking him out for WAY too long, I finally decided that hey, I'm really attracted to both his personality and physical appearance, and all I'll feel is regret if I continue to deprive myself out of fear of being judged. So I asked him out and he admitted that he had a crush on me too. He was a little shocked that I asked him out though because he feels like I'm out of his league, but if I'm attracted to him and he's attracted to me then so-called "leagues" are irrelevant. My mom sometimes tells me in private that she wishes I was with someone more handsome aka conventionally attractive. She doesn't really mean to be rude about it. She thinks my boyfriend is a nice person. She can just be judgmental and fatphobic. I just kind of shrug it off because whether or not she finds my boyfriend attractive or not is irrelevant. Other than that, we haven't gotten any comments. I guess partly because it's rude to comment on and partly because it isn't really such a big deal after all.
TLDR: Don't let what other people think keep you from doing what you want to do. You'll be much happier that way.