Without consent from the other person it's really just a form of abuse. Don't feel bad, someone had to tell me that once too.
if you can get your partner to consent to allowing you to sneak in extra calories, that's cool. Especially because with consent you can do it at random and just sort of keep them guessing which can be a fun game for both of you.
What you really want is someone who wants or is willing to try what you're into. If you don't know, then ask. A good in is if they ever complain about their weight or diet but that's not the only in. Keep it positive and be supportive, respectful, and patient. Don't be pushy or manipulative or you might quickly find yourself doubled over in pain and with a lot of regrets, or worse.
If they say no, then you'll have to decide if the relationship is worth the sacrifice of not having exactly what you might want.
3 years
