The first thing is just to treat them as you would any other woman with respect and regard for their dignity. I've had wonderful dates and relationships with some rather large women.
The second thing is to anticipate thier needs discretely, and let them lead. They've probably been dealing with the challenges if being fat for some time and almost certainly know thier needs better than you do. When in doubt ask in a respectful way.
That being said, if they are of a certain size, it's best to call ahead before going somewhere new. If they've been somewhere and had a good time there, then great, probably no problems there. If you're going somewhere new it's best to call ahead, or even go there first to check it out.
Here are a few things to consider: walking distances, exposure to extreme temperatures, adequate availability of seating if you have to wait for a table, how much standing will be involved, are the chairs armless or are the booths deep enough, are the bathrooms big enough to be accessable, are they conveniently located, will too many stairs be involved, are the tables so closely packed together that it would be difficult to to pass between them. If you're driving, will your date be comfortable in your car, and if they might need a seatbelt extender buy one first and have it already in place for their convenience. Those are just a few things.
When you call ahead don't be afraid too ask, and be direct! If your date weighs four hundred pounds, ask directly. I will be visiting, and may need some special accommodations based on the fact I weigh 400 pounds. If your date has devices to assist with mobility, tell them you use a cane, walker, mobility scooter, wheelchair, etc. And see if they can accommodate you.
Your date shouldn't ever know or need to know you did this, but they will appreciate having a good time with you, being comfortable, and having access to what they need.
Just remember, people who are fat are always people first.
The second thing is to anticipate thier needs discretely, and let them lead. They've probably been dealing with the challenges if being fat for some time and almost certainly know thier needs better than you do. When in doubt ask in a respectful way.
That being said, if they are of a certain size, it's best to call ahead before going somewhere new. If they've been somewhere and had a good time there, then great, probably no problems there. If you're going somewhere new it's best to call ahead, or even go there first to check it out.
Here are a few things to consider: walking distances, exposure to extreme temperatures, adequate availability of seating if you have to wait for a table, how much standing will be involved, are the chairs armless or are the booths deep enough, are the bathrooms big enough to be accessable, are they conveniently located, will too many stairs be involved, are the tables so closely packed together that it would be difficult to to pass between them. If you're driving, will your date be comfortable in your car, and if they might need a seatbelt extender buy one first and have it already in place for their convenience. Those are just a few things.
When you call ahead don't be afraid too ask, and be direct! If your date weighs four hundred pounds, ask directly. I will be visiting, and may need some special accommodations based on the fact I weigh 400 pounds. If your date has devices to assist with mobility, tell them you use a cane, walker, mobility scooter, wheelchair, etc. And see if they can accommodate you.
Your date shouldn't ever know or need to know you did this, but they will appreciate having a good time with you, being comfortable, and having access to what they need.
Just remember, people who are fat are always people first.
4 years