BBWcreator82:
All I got out of that whole post was "She's not dumb"
You could use a lesson in morality. Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should.
Invite her to the site. Tell her everything. Be a real man. See what happens. I dare you.
I don't have the energy to get too far into this but I second this ^
All this would be perfectly fine if it were pure fantasy, but if this is a real human being we're talking about, and you're their spouse . . . ugh. Dude, the fact that you're doing all this on the DL and posting about it here to chat about it with us is very manipulative, and there's no way it can pan out well if you don't communicate any of this. You can start out subtle and small and introduce her to these ideas little by little if you're nervous- that's understandable!!- but you have to show enough trust in her as your partner to make her own decisions. If she's open enough to it to allow herself to start eating bigger portions, like you've said, then there's no reason to think that she's so dumb that she wouldn't recognize that enjoyment in herself- very soon, if not right now. For one thing I don't know if any woman anywhere in Western culture can gain much more than 15 pounds without at least some friends/family/coworkers/etc making comments about her body; that's virtually inevitable in modern life as a woman. Which also means, maybe she's totally aware of it and finds that she's fine with it, and this convo could end great. You don't know if you don't try.
If she's honestly been so distracted that she hasn't noticed any of this even to herself, and one day down the line she realizes you've manipulated her into a version of herself that she hates for your own kicks, how can that end well? How can it end in anything other than resentment and loathing, once she finds out the ways that you've tried to control her and her body? Without her consent? If she hasn't noticed herself yet and she doesn't reciprocate if you do try the hard thing, to bring it up in an honest, mature conversation SOON, then sure she could be mad. She would have the right to be, but it would also pass with time and effort. You can figure out a way to mend it and live without hurting this woman you love, and keep fantasy alive for yourself but separate from your marriage. Why treat any fantasy like it's more important than the person you've committed your whole life to?
You can of course feel free to respond to this with anger but I'm not here to engage in some big argument if you're not in a place where you're ready to consider changing what you're doing. I just hope that you pause and reflect on the big picture for your own sake as well as your wife's.