For me, it was always the fantasy of being so helpless to my feedist urges that I couldn't stop if I wanted to. Some people try and be fat and healthy, but the risks of excessive obesity are very real, and I guess it's kind of steering into the skid so to speak, embracing the probability of developing them and utilising that for gratification.
It became very real for me last year when I was diagnosed as diabetic, with high blood pressure, and high cholesterol to boot. I took time away from the community to deal with that and reflect on who I am and how I'd been engaging with my fetish, and finally feel at peace with my issues.
2 years