Lifestyle tips

I'm sure this is asked pretty often, but I'm currently in a relationship with a lil chubby girl who loves food. She seems insecure about herself and her size, and probably wants to lose weight if anything.

How would I convince or encourage her that she doesn't have to, or that she could get bigger and let her desires free instead?

Probably at first, just be very complimentary of her figure and body. Not just with words but with actions and your hands. A lot of girls love their body being rubbed lovingly. At some point the topic of weight will come up and if she talks about “I should lose weight” you can just very honestly tell her you’ll miss her curvy softness - or something along those lines.

It’s generally a process that happens over time - especially if she’s been criticized by others. People typically need time to process and reconcile an idea one step at a time. Be patient with her, tell her more as she’s ready to hear it, which might not be as fast as you want to tell her. Communication and honesty are important. You could do a little fact finding here or there as opportunities present themselves. Maybe an article you read or news story can spark a conversation that isn’t about her weight, but gets her sharing opinions or feelings about chubby people or weight loss or something. You might be pleasantly surprised.

Don’t be afraid to offer her seconds or playfully tease her for not finishing the last bite. Nothing intense of course. Don’t make her feel obligated or self conscious. Down the road, when you tell her you like her chubby and would enjoy her getting bigger, she’ll be able to think back and the fact that you never encourage her to stop or diet and have always offered more. That will help her see you are being genuine and not just saying it to be nice.

Just some ideas. Think about her personality and how she responds to things and that should also help you know what to say and when to say it. You want her to feel loved and accepted, not like she’s flawed or something for being smaller than you’d like

This gets asked by a bunch of creepy people who like to manipulate others into doing something they aren't comfortable with.

If they want to lose weight and you are actively sabotaging it for your own personal enjoyment, newsflash, you're the bad guy.

Don't do this. Anyone who joins this site to "Learn how to manipulate people" should delete their accounts.

It's wrong. You want fantasy, write a story. Role play with someone.

Don't do it in real life.

This is how people get hurt. It's not love or friendship, it's possession. "You're good enough for me and that's all that matters"

Go seek therapy. This isn't the place for you.

Alright, so I appreciate everyone who helped discuss it from a relationship point of view! It's always bothered me when I hear my gf talk about how horribly she's been treated due to even the slightest amount of pudge. I'd rather try to let her feel liberated to perceive herself however she wants, and most people here gave me good examples of encouraging, because the last thing I want her to feel is that I want her to do things or change herself as if she's just a sexual object.

To everyone else who thought I wanted to know for forceful reasons, please don't put words in my mouth. Thanks

Either way, I genuinely appreciate the advice to everyone else! I've always been horrible explaining myself and especially moreso because I never spoke to my fetishes to anyone before. So thank you!