Lifestyle tips

Telling your partner

I'd get her comfortable with the idea that you find her fat sexy. Be chill about it. But also, be consistent. Do not give mixed signals.

If it were me, I'd wait until an intimate moment. Maybe while cuddling, making out, or during sex.

I'd say, "You are so sexy to me." Start off with what I like about her personality. Then move into more benign traits like her eyes, hair, and laugh. From there I'd wax poetic about her fatter parts - touching them as I talk about them.

After that, make it your mission to show her how much her fat drives you crazy. Don't make it the main focus. But make sure it's clear.

If you are wanting her to be fatter, maybe even stuff her, I'd wait a few more months at least. Changing your body to please your partner (especially if she isn't into it) is a very big deal.

That being said, if you do get to this point, be casual. Let her know you wouldn't mind if she puts on a few. That you'd still find her sexy. Let her do her own thing for a bit. See if she starts piling on the pounds and flaunting it for you.

Make food an intimate thing. If you cook, cook for her. No secret fattening. Nothing super unhealthy. Just her favorite dishes with generous portions.

If you do not know how to cook, learn how. Sign up for couples classes or learn alone. Have her be your taste tester. Then you can cook her favorite things.

Work up to hand feeding and belly rubs. At this point she should have figured out you're a feeder - even if she doesn't have the words for it. But she should be comfortable with it at this point.

Tell her everything, but make it clear she has the final say. Do not influence her decision or make her feel bad for whatever she chooses.
2 years