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I don't know if I'll be able to use any advice, but it could help others

Now for some background

I (M 23) have been dating this girl (F 22) for just under a year

After a few months (Maybe 5 or 6 months) of dating, I told her of me being interested in larger frames, and her being slightly chubby, kind of assumed I started dating her because of her looks, which is absolutely not true. I love her personality and sense of humour, she's adorable, and I'm absolutely enamoured with her

About a month later, I asked if she had ever considered gaining weight

She became upset, not angry, but sad. I didn't stop to consider how she could interpret the question, and boy do I regret asking

I haven't touched the subject so directly since in the slightest, but I do think we've gotten past that little incident since she lets me rub her belly now, which is nice, but anyway

I doubt I'd ever be able to convince her to gain weight at all, but the last thing I want is for us to break up, so I don't care

That doesn't mean I don't want it anymore, but without the perfect, and I do mean completely flawless, course of action that will never happen
In video game terms, I don't need just a rare or legendary piece of advice, I need a unique one

Which takes me back to the initial point of the topic, and like I said, I'd probably won't be able to use the advice, but it could be a good source of it for others in similar enough situation

EDIT: The best advice I came up with for myself is time, figured that one not too long after the incident, and no, I won’t take any advice involving manipulation or anything of the sort

UPDATE:

Last week we hit a slightly rough patch, but we got through it. It was a small thing, resolved in a day, nothing that would have ended the relationship I don't think, thank god (On a side note, why are the meanings of words and sentences in English so fluid? For lack of a better word)

Anyway, she let me play with her belly a little bit, and yesterday she admitted it that me enjoying it turned her on

You know what? I'll take it

I did apologize immediately

The question wasn’t exactly out of the blue, we were watching a movie and a scene where the characters talked about themselves came up, she asked me and I answered, too boldly judging by the result

After apologizing, she did understand that I didn’t start dating her because of her looks, we started talking about her own quirks and overall weirdness afterwards. She started that by the way, don’t judge me on it

Overall, it was water under the bridge in less than a week (her words too). But I do want to explain it better, I guess, hopefully getting her a little interested or at least curious

I don’t even know what I’m saying anymore, I’m tired and shouldn’t answer this hours past when I’m usually asleep yet here I am

Bump:

She let me knead her belly, as it turns out she really like that

Small victories