Agreed, love this question!
My lover and I like to joke that our love languages are complementary, in that she has four (!) and I have the one that remains, Quality Time. But I'm also a giver, so it works out well somehow 😅
In any case, I've picked up the ways *her* love languages overlap with feedism, and we integrate them sometimes. Here are two:
Words of Affirmation: this is a huge one, especially if you are self conscious about your body. I *love* to constantly remind my lover about how attracted I am to her - and not just in a sexy way either! Regardless, I love seeing her brighten up and grow more confident, especially about her tummy. She had always been ashamed of having any pudge, but I'd like to thing that my constant reminders (both verbal and physical) of her beauty have helped her feel better about herself.
Receiving Gifts: Food is a love language too, and gifting is is a great way we can show our love! I regularly make meals for my lover so that she isn't forced to cook after a long workday. I often bring home special snacks from the store, and try to sneak little candies into her lunches. They're small gifts, but you'd be surprised how happy it can make someone.
Needless to say, these go a long way towards making her happy, both in our relationship and with herself. And no, feedism isn't her kink but she's put on some relationship weight regardless and been able to feel confident with it. Who knows, maybe that's her way of speaking my love language!
2 years
