Quiver:
My partner is also very vanilla so I feel ya. I told him within the first month or two of when we started dating and I highly recommend that, because it only gets harder the longer you keep it a secret. And if they love you, that won’t put them off even if they don’t share it at all.
I try not to go on and on about it because I know he’ll never really get it, but he’s supportive and will indulge me in the little ways from time to time. (It is also always tempting to try to figure out what other kinks you do share in common). Regardless of whether they like any of your kinks, it’s just nice to feel accepted for who you are.
I feel so many people on here get laser focused on feedism that they forget to explore other ways their sexually compatible with their SOs. Or even explore certain dynamics of feedism that isn't explicitly about weight gain.
This doesn't only apply to feedist-non-feedist couples. This applies to feedist couples as well. Because no matter what flavor of feedism you indulge in, there will be times you have to put it on pause. And if your sex life is only about feedism, it'll suffer.
There's also something to be said about vanilla sex as well. Kinks are great, but there's something nice about just enjoying each other's bodies.
