Angelgluttony:
Lately I've been super lonely and just not feeling okay mentally. a lot of my “friends” have told me that I need to try to make friends. Most would think that a 23-year-old would have some sort of social life but honestly I don’t. I’ve been chatting with people and having basic conversation and such but eventually it just dies off. And when I text them every other day it just makes me feel like I’m a bother. of course everyone is busy/ have their own life. But for some odd reason I get offended when seeing them online and actively chatting in groups. I feel like saying that makes me feel narcissistic or selfish. But if I didn’t want to talk to someone, I would tell them. Idk man. And then me being a feedee it gets so boring when I have no one to send pictures and stuff too or talk about things with. I do it for my own pleasure sure but it just gets so depressing when the only time someone messages you is to basically “get off” on “chatting”. I mean I’m not judging but where is the “ Hi how are you?” 😂 does anyone else feel like this?
Lately I've been super lonely and just not feeling okay mentally. a lot of my “friends” have told me that I need to try to make friends. Most would think that a 23-year-old would have some sort of social life but honestly I don’t. I’ve been chatting with people and having basic conversation and such but eventually it just dies off. And when I text them every other day it just makes me feel like I’m a bother. of course everyone is busy/ have their own life. But for some odd reason I get offended when seeing them online and actively chatting in groups. I feel like saying that makes me feel narcissistic or selfish. But if I didn’t want to talk to someone, I would tell them. Idk man. And then me being a feedee it gets so boring when I have no one to send pictures and stuff too or talk about things with. I do it for my own pleasure sure but it just gets so depressing when the only time someone messages you is to basically “get off” on “chatting”. I mean I’m not judging but where is the “ Hi how are you?” 😂 does anyone else feel like this?
I’m older than you, but one of the highlights of my week is getting out to a writing group and being social, and that’s not the same thing as hanging out with friend friends, but they’re still my writing group friends and it’s a lot of fun.
The catch is that it’s an activity I need to take a positive action to do. It doesn’t come to me, I can’t do it from my couch, I have to plan it and do it and get out of the house. Sometimes I don’t want to. It was a busy day/I’m feeling sad/I’m tired/I’m nervous. I try not to let those be excuses and I get out of the house. I’m always happy when I do. I’ve never once said “I wish I hadn’t done that”. Sometimes when I’ve skipped I’ve regretted it the next day.
So, plan a scheme to get out of the house! Make a date with a friend. Go to your local library’s website and see what activities they run. I guarantee you there are a ton of them and they’re free. Maybe you’ll find a new hobby or meet new people. It’s tough at first, but you get over that part really fast.
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