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Munchies   United States
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Cady55:
First, I’ll admit by saying I’m a horrible person. (Let’s look past that) I have been cheating on my husband with a guy I work with for about 6 months now. I finally got a conscience and decided to break it off. Come to find out, this guy is a closet feeder. Told me if I stopped hooking up with him he would go to my husband. Now, he doesn’t just want sex, he wants to make me fatter too. Now the problem is, I find it kinda hot. 🙈


Nah, not looking past that. Sort your shit out and come clean to your husband. Don't be shocked if he leaves your ass.

I don't understand why talking through your issues with him or divorcing him wasn't an option in your head before you got to this point.

I've been in happy, open relationships before. It was fine if I wanted to enjoy someone else because we established that boundary beforehand. All was well. Never cheated because I'm an adult and act like it.
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Hhhggg   Germany
Joined 13 years
Cady55:
First, I’ll admit by saying I’m a horrible person. (Let’s look past that) I have been cheating on my husband with a guy I work with for about 6 months now. I finally got a conscience and decided to break it off. Come to find out, this guy is a closet feeder. Told me if I stopped hooking up with him he would go to my husband. Now, he doesn’t just want sex, he wants to make me fatter too. Now the problem is, I find it kinda hot. 🙈


How much does he want you to gain?
How does you husband feel about you gaining weight?
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James4thegiantpeach   United States
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Cady55:
First, I’ll admit by saying I’m a horrible person. (Let’s look past that) I have been cheating on my husband with a guy I work with for about 6 months now. I finally got a conscience and decided to break it off. Come to find out, this guy is a closet feeder. Told me if I stopped hooking up with him he would go to my husband. Now, he doesn’t just want sex, he wants to make me fatter too. Now the problem is, I find it kinda hot. 🙈


loser!
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Letters And Numbers   United States
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This reads like a feedist version of those fake letters in Penthouse magazine.
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Canuck   Canada
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Letters And Numbers:
This reads like a feedist version of those fake letters in Penthouse magazine.


that was exactly what i was thinking, lol!
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Letters And Numbers   United States
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Letters And Numbers:
This reads like a feedist version of those fake letters in Penthouse magazine.

Canuck:
that was exactly what i was thinking, lol!


I think we both just dated ourselves
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Letters And Numbers   United States
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No arguing in this thread please. I don’t really know what the OP meant to say with their first post, maybe just to titillate or outrage, but let’s keep it on whatever topic there is.
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ObeseCalorie   Italy
Joined 8 months
Cady55:
First, I’ll admit by saying I’m a horrible person. (Let’s look past that) I have been cheating on my husband with a guy I work with for about 6 months now. I finally got a conscience and decided to break it off. Come to find out, this guy is a closet feeder. Told me if I stopped hooking up with him he would go to my husband. Now, he doesn’t just want sex, he wants to make me fatter too. Now the problem is, I find it kinda hot. 🙈


You have to do some homework and ask some questions to yourself.

Like what happened 6 months ago which made you search for another person (ie cheat)? No need to type it here - but you need to answer it for yourself.
Is your husband treating you well? Has he perhaps fallen in some vice like gambling or taking drugs and is ruining the family financially? Does he like you the way you are or was he perhaps nagging you to lose weight? Before you found out that the 2nd guy was a closet feeder and wanted you to gain, what was the reason you got attracted to him? Think about the answers you get to these questions....

Now about getting clean about it...
I'd definitely just shut him off cold turkey if I were you. There's a big chance he's bluffing and he won't tell your husband. And even if he does, it would be your word against his.

After quitting the extramarital relationship, I'm not sure whether the right thing would be to tell your husband or not.
Perhaps someone else can give you that advice?
I mean, if you tell him you had been cheating, it would surely break his heart and there's a big chance he would leave (and rightly so...) and also, if he stays with you, he will never forget what you did to him. Forgive yes perhaps, but forget... never.
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Munchies   United States
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Cady55:
First, I’ll admit by saying I’m a horrible person. (Let’s look past that) I have been cheating on my husband with a guy I work with for about 6 months now. I finally got a conscience and decided to break it off. Come to find out, this guy is a closet feeder. Told me if I stopped hooking up with him he would go to my husband. Now, he doesn’t just want sex, he wants to make me fatter too. Now the problem is, I find it kinda hot. 🙈

Munchies:
Nah, not looking past that. Sort your shit out and come clean to your husband. Don't be shocked if he leaves your ass.

I don't understand why talking through your issues with him or divorcing him wasn't an option in your head before you got to this point.

I've been in happy, open relationships before. It was fine if I wanted to enjoy someone else because we established that boundary beforehand. All was well. Never cheated because I'm an adult and act like it.

RenaissanceGuy:
Munchies, while I enjoy your bluntness and think your overall message is generally right, your approach is as childish as the OP's approach to their situation.

Yes, people should communicate with one another, yes people should be forthright about their situations. The thing is, not everyone is you. Not every perception or set of contexts is yours. Leave your toxic behavior in a League of Legends forum.

As to the OP, you should talk with your husband, and work through it, whether together or separately.


It's more that we get posts like these all the time. How real they are is debatable, but every time it plays into a very clear cheating/humiliation fetish.

First she cheats, then he blackmails her into staying. Eventually she works up the courage to break it off.

This is all good and well.

But then she finds out that she can indulge her fetishes with him, she wants him back.

This is where she loses me. She wants to keep whatever benefits she has with her husband while also enjoying her fetishes. And this is after she's worked up the courage to cut it off.

I could understand if she hadn't reached that point yet. I could understand if she was staying with him due to the black mail but took solice in the fact that they have similar kinks.

This isn't what's happening here. I'm not being toxic. I'm simply fed up.
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Letters And Numbers   United States
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Cady55:
First, I’ll admit by saying I’m a horrible person. (Let’s look past that) I have been cheating on my husband with a guy I work with for about 6 months now. I finally got a conscience and decided to break it off. Come to find out, this guy is a closet feeder. Told me if I stopped hooking up with him he would go to my husband. Now, he doesn’t just want sex, he wants to make me fatter too. Now the problem is, I find it kinda hot. 🙈

Munchies:
Nah, not looking past that. Sort your shit out and come clean to your husband. Don't be shocked if he leaves your ass.

I don't understand why talking through your issues with him or divorcing him wasn't an option in your head before you got to this point.

I've been in happy, open relationships before. It was fine if I wanted to enjoy someone else because we established that boundary beforehand. All was well. Never cheated because I'm an adult and act like it.

RenaissanceGuy:
Munchies, while I enjoy your bluntness and think your overall message is generally right, your approach is as childish as the OP's approach to their situation.

Yes, people should communicate with one another, yes people should be forthright about their situations. The thing is, not everyone is you. Not every perception or set of contexts is yours. Leave your toxic behavior in a League of Legends forum.

As to the OP, you should talk with your husband, and work through it, whether together or separately.

Munchies:
It's more that we get posts like these all the time. How real they are is debatable, but every time it plays into a very clear cheating/humiliation fetish.

First she cheats, then he blackmails her into staying. Eventually she works up the courage to break it off.

This is all good and well.

But then she finds out that she can indulge her fetishes with him, she wants him back.

This is where she loses me. She wants to keep whatever benefits she has with her husband while also enjoying her fetishes. And this is after she's worked up the courage to cut it off.

I could understand if she hadn't reached that point yet. I could understand if she was staying with him due to the black mail but took solice in the fact that they have similar kinks.

This isn't what's happening here. I'm not being toxic. I'm simply fed up.
You can choose to not engage with posts that make you fed up, or flag it if it's content that you think breaks site rules. This story here doesn't feel credible to me, especially looking at the OP's other posts, which are all kinda on the pushing-buttons side of things. Don't let it get you upset.
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