Technoman:
Maybe I messed up this post by mentioning my past guilt.
I didn't want the comments to be so focused on just me, I'm just one individual.
Think about the bombardment of messages from mass media and social media painting fat admirers and feeders in such a villainous light.
Especially when the man is a thin individual who is the admirer and the woman is a fat individual who is being admired, how the man is painted as a villain and the woman is painted as a victim.
Munchies:
Okay, but like ... why?
Are you taking advantage of these women? Are you respecting the bodily autonomy? Are you keeping their best interests in mind at all times?
I'm a sadistic domme feeder into extreme weight gain. I like making fat men crawl around on their knees with overly full fat bellies. I don't give a fuck if people like it. The only thing that matter is if my partner likes it.
Now, if you are taking advantage of women or forcing them to do things they don't want to do, then that's a different story.
Technoman:
There are messages telling someone (often men) that there is something to feel guilty about for simply finding something specially attractive about a fat individual (especially if it's fat women). It doesn't even need to come to the point of a relationship, just the mere desire is shamed.
Plus when it's consensual relationship, then there are messages raising doubts on how consensual it is for the one being admired. If the one being admired is just doing it to keep the one doing the admiring.
The reason an admirer is shamed can be multiple reasons: the admieree's health, being called shallow, accused of sexualizing fat individuals, accused of trying to trap the individual, etc.
Boy, I said what I said. If you know you are doing right by your partner, then other's opinions literally do not matter.
Think about it in other contexts. Let's say you fall in love with a light-skinned or non-black woman. You're a dark-skinned Jamaican black man - about the same shade as me. People our color often run into colorism from all sides. People talk about how getting with us is risky to our future children for fear they come out looking dark. And I know the colorism over there is worse than it is over here.
And yet, people shouldn't feel guilty about getting with us for fear of how it may affect our kids. It quite literally doesn't matter what people outside of the relationship think.
