Lifestyle tips

Well, what are you guys already doing?

Nice! What's your dynamic? Are you guys into extreme weight gain? What's her limit and comfort zone? How much has she gained thus far?

Hm. I wouldn't do it if I were you.

To be clear, I'm not kink-shaming. I honestly do not care. But I don't think you two are ready for that.

Your profile says you are 22. I don't know anything about you, but the average 22-year-old is usually in college with little money. Gaining til immobility is a huge commitment. You need to be able to afford food, clothing, medical care, and mobility aids at high weights.

I don't know if you are the sole provider or if you guys are splitting expenses, but there will be a time when she will heavily rely on you for all her needs, such as feeding, toileting, bathing, etc. She might be able to get a fully remote job, but that's not a guarantee.

Feeding someone to immobility is akin to marriage in a way. Can you see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person? If not, then maybe you want to shoot for a lower weight. If so, then take your time and focus on getting yourself to a point where this arrangement won't burden either of you.

Yeah, it's super important to think about that. Not having a plan will put huge amounts of stress on your relationship. For now, I'd limit her gains to the outer edge of her comfort zone. It's cool that she has a side gig where she sells fetish content, but most fetish models only do that for a few years before tapping out. So, I'd figure out something more sustainable in the long term.

Can you two see her doing this in the next 5, 10 years? Will she have enough income from that to keep up with her food costs? The bigger she gets, the more she'll need to keep eating. Speaking as an extreme feeder, the food costs alone add up really fat after a certain point.

If you see yourself with her for decades to come, then there isn't a rush. Take the time to sort things out. Plus, if you go too fast or hard, she'll get sick and tap out. I see this happen a lot with extreme gainers and rapid gainers. They keep chugging along until around the 350 - 600 lbs range when everything starts to go wrong. Sometimes, they even have to completely give up because of the damage they've done to their body.

If you want to reach immobility, you need to focus on sustainability and not speed. Plus, there's a non-zero chance she might change her mind. I've met a lot of people who wanted to be immobile in real life, but at some point, they realized they preferred fantasy to reality. Most of them settle for being very fat with limited mobility. Only a small handful follow through because once you are immobile, there's essentially no going back.

Again, I'm not kink-shaming. I'm only saying this so that you and your partner achieve whatever outcome makes you two happy.