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I was wondering what people's thoughts were when it comes to explaining away weight gain to friends and family when they ask and comment on it? Particularly if it's fairly rapid gaining.

Obviously you don't need to tell them that you're gaining intentionally, but you rapid gaining for people who aren't into feederism is typically tied to lots of negative underlying issues like depression, etc. Wonder if anyone had any ideas on how to reassure friends and family you are doing/feeling great while gaining a significant amount of weight fairly quickly and put their minds at ease? (Without telling them it's cause you are actively trying to become a fatty).

im rapidly gaining alot of weight tho ive always been very tiny. ive been thinking about gaslight them about it bc its not that serious haha

If you look anything like your PFP, that's hilarious. Ain't no way they'd fall for it, but the attempt would be too funny.

ill take it as a compliment

Well, it certainly wasn't an insult. ♥

It's definitely pretty scary! I think Dr. Feeder advised that you should just "shrug and say you like to eat."

Basically! Here's some more detailed advice I gave someone once:

Dear Dr. Feeder,
My name is Amanda. Last year I began university, and because of this had to move away from home onto campus. One thing I had promised myself to do when I moved out of home was to gain weight. Since moving onto Campus I have just let myself go completely, and as a result gained 50lbs. However, this summer I will be visiting my mother back home whom is very into healthy eating, and so forth. Let me say right now that I am not loosing any weight whatsoever for her, nor do I intend to stop. But, I do not know what to say to her to avoid her from being too upset.
What can I say to prevent her from being too angry?--Amanda, April 2, 2009

Dear Amanda,
You may not be able to keep her from being angry. Settle for keeping her from nagging you to death. Try:

1. If she gets angry, DON'T get angry yourself.
2. If she asks why you gained, say it's because you like to eat and don't mind the extra weight.
3. If she asks you why you don't diet, say you've tried diets and have found you're happier eating what you want.
4. If she makes a comment about your weight that is not in the form of a question, don't respond.
5. If she says something mean, say "Now you're just being mean."

And remember the three NEVERs:

NEVER apologize for your gain;
NEVER apologize for your size;
NEVER apologize for your appetite.

If she tries to get you to eat healthy food (fruit & vegetables, etc.) go ahead and eat it. It will make her feel better. You can still eat your favorite goodies as well.
If she won't shut up about it, say 'look, I know you're just saying all this because you love me and you want what's best for me, and I appreciate that, but it's my decision and you need to respect that.'
Let me know how it goes!--Dr. Feeder

Dear Dr. Feeder,
Sorry for the long reply period, I only flew in a couple of days ago. As you can imagine, it wasn't great at all. But surprisingly I didn't feel down about it whatsoever! When I first gave my mother a hug, she put her hand on my stomach and patted and squeezed it, constantly glancing down at it. It was horribly awkward. For some reason I expected that would be it. Later that night she gave me a brief "discussion" about my weight and asked me if anything was wrong and so forth. I explained to her exactly what you suggested, that I was happy the way I was and didn't feel the need to diet. Amazingly though, that was it!
Thankfully, she hasn't said anything else yet about my weight which I'm very pleased with. Thank-you so much for your help - the food here is quite healthy, so for that reason I'm looking forward to returning home where I can eat what I like.
Again, thank-you so much for the wonderful advice,--Amanda, May 4, 2009

Dear Amanda,
You're welcome, I'm glad it worked out.--Dr. Feeder

it probably was

we'll see how long I can hide it

why hide it inbrace it fully if they don't like it who care it makes you happy and that's all that matters