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Struggling with the plus sized body image

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ChubuffElly   Germany
Joined 4 months
Hio, I'm very anxious to write about this but here we go.

For a very long time now I have had difficulty with my own body image. I love gaining, the lifestyle and I'm definitely happier but.

When browsing on here or whereever else I can't stop comparing, pinching and padding myself down. I know this might be a general problem but I was not sure if it fit there since it is very much fat related. Being trans might also add negatively to the issue. I'm worried that no matter how much or where I put on weight it's not going to be enough.

Has anyone else felt this way and has some advice on how to ameliorate this terrible mindset?
3 months

Struggling with the plus sized body image

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Munchies   United States
Joined 3 years
ChubuffElly:
Hio, I'm very anxious to write about this but here we go.

For a very long time now I have had difficulty with my own body image. I love gaining, the lifestyle and I'm definitely happier but.

When browsing on here or whereever else I can't stop comparing, pinching and padding myself down. I know this might be a general problem but I was not sure if it fit there since it is very much fat related. Being trans might also add negatively to the issue. I'm worried that no matter how much or where I put on weight it's not going to be enough.

Has anyone else felt this way and has some advice on how to ameliorate this terrible mindset?


I'm not trans, but I have body dysmorphia. For those who don't know what that means, it's when you have a distorted view of what you look like. Mine isn't so bad right now, but it used to be terrible.

I used to be underweight due to having a health issue. I hated how I looked, so I started gaining. However, even when my scale and clothes told me I put on weight, I kept seeing my old underweight body. On top of all that, I was in an abusive situation and couldn't get therapy.

What worked for me was standing naked in front of a mirror and telling myself something I liked about my body. I kept it up until I liked what I saw most days.
3 months

Struggling with the plus sized body image

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Enas   Greece
Joined 3 years
ChubuffElly:
Hio, I'm very anxious to write about this but here we go.

For a very long time now I have had difficulty with my own body image. I love gaining, the lifestyle and I'm definitely happier but.

When browsing on here or whereever else I can't stop comparing, pinching and padding myself down. I know this might be a general problem but I was not sure if it fit there since it is very much fat related. Being trans might also add negatively to the issue. I'm worried that no matter how much or where I put on weight it's not going to be enough.

Has anyone else felt this way and has some advice on how to ameliorate this terrible mindset?

Munchies:
I'm not trans, but I have body dysmorphia. For those who don't know what that means, it's when you have a distorted view of what you look like. Mine isn't so bad right now, but it used to be terrible.

I used to be underweight due to having a health issue. I hated how I looked, so I started gaining. However, even when my scale and clothes told me I put on weight, I kept seeing my old underweight body. On top of all that, I was in an abusive situation and couldn't get therapy.

What worked for me was standing naked in front of a mirror and telling myself something I liked about my body. I kept it up until I liked what I saw most days.


Munchies i didnt know you suffer from it, im really sorry to hear that :c

I see that you have developed a coping mechanism to deal with it. I thought that perhaps i could help you with sharing some material relevant to it. I havent read them fully (looked the first pages of them) but i think they might prove helpfull because i saw they examine it from a psychoanalytic point. And psychoanalysis is what is needed here more than anything.
(i hope the Links work this time!)

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And here is some explenation of how psychoanalysis can help, in case youre not familiar with it:

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Struggling with the plus sized body image

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Snivvels   United Kingdom
Joined 13 years
My Mrs has recently lost a lot of weight and now has a bit of body dysmorphia. It's like her brain needs time to catch up with the change in reality.

Good shout regarding standing in front of the mirror and calling out something good. I'll suggest that to the Mrs.
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Struggling with the plus sized body image

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ChubuffElly   Germany
Joined 4 months
ChubuffElly:
Hio, I'm very anxious to write about this but here we go.

For a very long time now I have had difficulty with my own body image. I love gaining, the lifestyle and I'm definitely happier but.

When browsing on here or whereever else I can't stop comparing, pinching and padding myself down. I know this might be a general problem but I was not sure if it fit there since it is very much fat related. Being trans might also add negatively to the issue. I'm worried that no matter how much or where I put on weight it's not going to be enough.

Has anyone else felt this way and has some advice on how to ameliorate this terrible mindset?

Munchies:
I'm not trans, but I have body dysmorphia. For those who don't know what that means, it's when you have a distorted view of what you look like. Mine isn't so bad right now, but it used to be terrible.

I used to be underweight due to having a health issue. I hated how I looked, so I started gaining. However, even when my scale and clothes told me I put on weight, I kept seeing my old underweight body. On top of all that, I was in an abusive situation and couldn't get therapy.

What worked for me was standing naked in front of a mirror and telling myself something I liked about my body. I kept it up until I liked what I saw most days.


It's good you feel better using the method. I will try it today and make an effort to do so consistently
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Struggling with the plus sized body image

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ChubuffElly   Germany
Joined 4 months
ChubuffElly:
Hio, I'm very anxious to write about this but here we go.

For a very long time now I have had difficulty with my own body image. I love gaining, the lifestyle and I'm definitely happier but.

When browsing on here or whereever else I can't stop comparing, pinching and padding myself down. I know this might be a general problem but I was not sure if it fit there since it is very much fat related. Being trans might also add negatively to the issue. I'm worried that no matter how much or where I put on weight it's not going to be enough.

Has anyone else felt this way and has some advice on how to ameliorate this terrible mindset?

Munchies:
I'm not trans, but I have body dysmorphia. For those who don't know what that means, it's when you have a distorted view of what you look like. Mine isn't so bad right now, but it used to be terrible.

I used to be underweight due to having a health issue. I hated how I looked, so I started gaining. However, even when my scale and clothes told me I put on weight, I kept seeing my old underweight body. On top of all that, I was in an abusive situation and couldn't get therapy.

What worked for me was standing naked in front of a mirror and telling myself something I liked about my body. I kept it up until I liked what I saw most days.

Enas:
Munchies i didnt know you suffer from it, im really sorry to hear that :c

I see that you have developed a coping mechanism to deal with it. I thought that perhaps i could help you with sharing some material relevant to it. I havent read them fully (looked the first pages of them) but i think they might prove helpfull because i saw they examine it from a psychoanalytic point. And psychoanalysis is what is needed here more than anything.
(i hope the Links work this time!)

esource.dbs.ie/server/api/core/bitstreams/5cd6d6c2-1fae-4ad5-8f40-b8a61e097aad/content

esource.dbs.ie/server/api/core/bitstreams/5cd6d6c2-1fae-4ad5-8f40-b8a61e097aad/content

And here is some explenation of how psychoanalysis can help, in case youre not familiar with it:

esource.dbs.ie/server/api/core/bitstreams/5cd6d6c2-1fae-4ad5-8f40-b8a61e097aad/content

Thank you for those resources. I will read them in the coming days
3 months

Struggling with the plus sized body image

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Munchies   United States
Joined 3 years
ChubuffElly:
Hio, I'm very anxious to write about this but here we go.

For a very long time now I have had difficulty with my own body image. I love gaining, the lifestyle and I'm definitely happier but.

When browsing on here or whereever else I can't stop comparing, pinching and padding myself down. I know this might be a general problem but I was not sure if it fit there since it is very much fat related. Being trans might also add negatively to the issue. I'm worried that no matter how much or where I put on weight it's not going to be enough.

Has anyone else felt this way and has some advice on how to ameliorate this terrible mindset?

Munchies:
I'm not trans, but I have body dysmorphia. For those who don't know what that means, it's when you have a distorted view of what you look like. Mine isn't so bad right now, but it used to be terrible.

I used to be underweight due to having a health issue. I hated how I looked, so I started gaining. However, even when my scale and clothes told me I put on weight, I kept seeing my old underweight body. On top of all that, I was in an abusive situation and couldn't get therapy.

What worked for me was standing naked in front of a mirror and telling myself something I liked about my body. I kept it up until I liked what I saw most days.

Enas:
Munchies i didnt know you suffer from it, im really sorry to hear that :c

I see that you have developed a coping mechanism to deal with it. I thought that perhaps i could help you with sharing some material relevant to it. I havent read them fully (looked the first pages of them) but i think they might prove helpfull because i saw they examine it from a psychoanalytic point. And psychoanalysis is what is needed here more than anything.
(i hope the Links work this time!)

esource.dbs.ie/server/api/core/bitstreams/5cd6d6c2-1fae-4ad5-8f40-b8a61e097aad/content

esource.dbs.ie/server/api/core/bitstreams/5cd6d6c2-1fae-4ad5-8f40-b8a61e097aad/content

And here is some explenation of how psychoanalysis can help, in case youre not familiar with it:

esource.dbs.ie/server/api/core/bitstreams/5cd6d6c2-1fae-4ad5-8f40-b8a61e097aad/content

While I appreciate your offer of assistance, it is not needed for me. Maybe OP will get some use out if it

That said, don't offer link unless you know exactly what's in them as a general rule of thumb.
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Struggling with the plus sized body image

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Munchies   United States
Joined 3 years
Snivvels:
My Mrs has recently lost a lot of weight and now has a bit of body dysmorphia. It's like her brain needs time to catch up with the change in reality.

Good shout regarding standing in front of the mirror and calling out something good. I'll suggest that to the Mrs.


Sudden body changes can be a struggle for the mentals. One moment, your body looks like it always does, and then the next it doesn't. Your brain has a very strong sense of self for better and for worse.

It is my hope that your wife gets to a point where she loves what she sees in the mirror. In the mean time, I cannot understate how healing it is to hear your partner praise your body as it is.

On the flip side, this is also one of the reasons I warn non-fat people about rapid gains. It's very common to trigger a wicked case of body dysphoria that way. Slow gains give your brain a chance to adjust. It makes the process much less stressful.
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Struggling with the plus sized body image

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Morbidly A Beast   United States
Joined 2 years
I’ve never had a body image issue but sometimes I have a very intense frustrating horny desire to become absolutely huge these periods never last long I get really really stuffed once or twice and it never accumulates anything it’s when I least anticipate when I make the biggest strides.

I’m not sure if this relates to what some have expressed here and not sure if it just an aspect to our kink or what even is that
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Struggling with the plus sized body image

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Munchies   United States
Joined 3 years
Morbidly A Beast:
I’ve never had a body image issue but sometimes I have a very intense frustrating horny desire to become absolutely huge these periods never last long I get really really stuffed once or twice and it never accumulates anything it’s when I least anticipate when I make the biggest strides.

I’m not sure if this relates to what some have expressed here and not sure if it just an aspect to our kink or what even is that


I think that this specific kink an compound body image issues if you aren't careful.

Most feedists have some kind of transformation/body modification kink. We love a good weight gain journey. And for many of us, the journey doesn't have an end.

You hear a lot of feedists constantly dissatisfied with their bodies. And when that isn't properly managed, it can screw up your mentals.
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