2 weeks
Fattening in secret
Ninjaturtle94:
Over the past two years I’ve put on around 50 lbs unintentional. I have always had a huge interest in purposely putting on fat and from time to time I’d drink a quart of heavy cream a few days in a row and then stop. I absolutely loved the feeling of my belly getting softer.
Last night I told my wife I’d like to gain some weight on purpose and see how it is. I had bought a quart of heavy cream on my way home. I told her this and she called me weird and absolutely condemned it. I said I just wanted to try it for a month and see what happens.
She said she was going to dump the cream out but I had already chugged it at that point. I ordered some maltodextrin to accelerate the progress and now I wanna do it even more in secret. I’m planning on 1 quart a day mixed with maltodextrin. What’s the worst that could happen in a few weeks, right?
Munchies:
Hospital
This isn't going to end well. Not only are you going to make yourself sick, but you are also doing to ruin your relationship.
How about you actually grow a pair, act like you actually love your wife, and be an adult. Talk to her. Figure out where her concerns are coming from. See where you can compromise. Work with her and she is more likely to work with you.
What are you going to do when the heavy cream and maltodextrin makes you sick (because it will make you very sick) and she has to worry about you not dying, paying for your hospital bills, and how that financial stress from your selfishness will impact other financial aspects in your lives.
Ninjaturtle94:
We did talk for a while about it. She just says it’s not healthy and doesn’t support it. After further reading I’m not going to take the maltodextrin.
Over the past two years I’ve put on around 50 lbs unintentional. I have always had a huge interest in purposely putting on fat and from time to time I’d drink a quart of heavy cream a few days in a row and then stop. I absolutely loved the feeling of my belly getting softer.
Last night I told my wife I’d like to gain some weight on purpose and see how it is. I had bought a quart of heavy cream on my way home. I told her this and she called me weird and absolutely condemned it. I said I just wanted to try it for a month and see what happens.
She said she was going to dump the cream out but I had already chugged it at that point. I ordered some maltodextrin to accelerate the progress and now I wanna do it even more in secret. I’m planning on 1 quart a day mixed with maltodextrin. What’s the worst that could happen in a few weeks, right?
Munchies:
Hospital
This isn't going to end well. Not only are you going to make yourself sick, but you are also doing to ruin your relationship.
How about you actually grow a pair, act like you actually love your wife, and be an adult. Talk to her. Figure out where her concerns are coming from. See where you can compromise. Work with her and she is more likely to work with you.
What are you going to do when the heavy cream and maltodextrin makes you sick (because it will make you very sick) and she has to worry about you not dying, paying for your hospital bills, and how that financial stress from your selfishness will impact other financial aspects in your lives.
Ninjaturtle94:
We did talk for a while about it. She just says it’s not healthy and doesn’t support it. After further reading I’m not going to take the maltodextrin.
Mhm
And what all are you doing to safeguard your health?
2 weeks
Fattening in secret
Ninjaturtle94:
Over the past two years I’ve put on around 50 lbs unintentional. I have always had a huge interest in purposely putting on fat and from time to time I’d drink a quart of heavy cream a few days in a row and then stop. I absolutely loved the feeling of my belly getting softer.
Last night I told my wife I’d like to gain some weight on purpose and see how it is. I had bought a quart of heavy cream on my way home. I told her this and she called me weird and absolutely condemned it. I said I just wanted to try it for a month and see what happens.
She said she was going to dump the cream out but I had already chugged it at that point. I ordered some maltodextrin to accelerate the progress and now I wanna do it even more in secret. I’m planning on 1 quart a day mixed with maltodextrin. What’s the worst that could happen in a few weeks, right?
Munchies:
Hospital
This isn't going to end well. Not only are you going to make yourself sick, but you are also doing to ruin your relationship.
How about you actually grow a pair, act like you actually love your wife, and be an adult. Talk to her. Figure out where her concerns are coming from. See where you can compromise. Work with her and she is more likely to work with you.
What are you going to do when the heavy cream and maltodextrin makes you sick (because it will make you very sick) and she has to worry about you not dying, paying for your hospital bills, and how that financial stress from your selfishness will impact other financial aspects in your lives.
Ninjaturtle94:
We did talk for a while about it. She just says it’s not healthy and doesn’t support it. After further reading I’m not going to take the maltodextrin.
Over the past two years I’ve put on around 50 lbs unintentional. I have always had a huge interest in purposely putting on fat and from time to time I’d drink a quart of heavy cream a few days in a row and then stop. I absolutely loved the feeling of my belly getting softer.
Last night I told my wife I’d like to gain some weight on purpose and see how it is. I had bought a quart of heavy cream on my way home. I told her this and she called me weird and absolutely condemned it. I said I just wanted to try it for a month and see what happens.
She said she was going to dump the cream out but I had already chugged it at that point. I ordered some maltodextrin to accelerate the progress and now I wanna do it even more in secret. I’m planning on 1 quart a day mixed with maltodextrin. What’s the worst that could happen in a few weeks, right?
Munchies:
Hospital
This isn't going to end well. Not only are you going to make yourself sick, but you are also doing to ruin your relationship.
How about you actually grow a pair, act like you actually love your wife, and be an adult. Talk to her. Figure out where her concerns are coming from. See where you can compromise. Work with her and she is more likely to work with you.
What are you going to do when the heavy cream and maltodextrin makes you sick (because it will make you very sick) and she has to worry about you not dying, paying for your hospital bills, and how that financial stress from your selfishness will impact other financial aspects in your lives.
Ninjaturtle94:
We did talk for a while about it. She just says it’s not healthy and doesn’t support it. After further reading I’m not going to take the maltodextrin.
I can understand the difficulty when your wife condemns your wanting to gain. It seems as though your already fairly big so I'm curious if your wife fought you on your weight gain to this point. If she hasn't, then perhaps she likes the bigger you but social norms triggered her condemnation when you discussed with her. It is the perfect time of year to indulge anyway. You could probably gain 10 pounds between now and New Years without having to chug cream or maltodextrin. Test her reaction to just gaining some "holiday weight" I'm sure it would be more fun to gain with your wife's support, possibly chugging cream was a little bit much for her right now, but who knows, she might enjoy a few extra pounds you just put on by enjoying calorie rich food. This time of year gives you a great excuse, almost everyone gains weight this time of year.
2 weeks
Fattening in secret
Ninjaturtle94:
Over the past two years I’ve put on around 50 lbs unintentional. I have always had a huge interest in purposely putting on fat and from time to time I’d drink a quart of heavy cream a few days in a row and then stop. I absolutely loved the feeling of my belly getting softer.
Last night I told my wife I’d like to gain some weight on purpose and see how it is. I had bought a quart of heavy cream on my way home. I told her this and she called me weird and absolutely condemned it. I said I just wanted to try it for a month and see what happens.
She said she was going to dump the cream out but I had already chugged it at that point. I ordered some maltodextrin to accelerate the progress and now I wanna do it even more in secret. I’m planning on 1 quart a day mixed with maltodextrin. What’s the worst that could happen in a few weeks, right?
Munchies:
Hospital
This isn't going to end well. Not only are you going to make yourself sick, but you are also doing to ruin your relationship.
How about you actually grow a pair, act like you actually love your wife, and be an adult. Talk to her. Figure out where her concerns are coming from. See where you can compromise. Work with her and she is more likely to work with you.
What are you going to do when the heavy cream and maltodextrin makes you sick (because it will make you very sick) and she has to worry about you not dying, paying for your hospital bills, and how that financial stress from your selfishness will impact other financial aspects in your lives.
Ninjaturtle94:
We did talk for a while about it. She just says it’s not healthy and doesn’t support it. After further reading I’m not going to take the maltodextrin.
Highway:
I can understand the difficulty when your wife condemns your wanting to gain. It seems as though your already fairly big so I'm curious if your wife fought you on your weight gain to this point. If she hasn't, then perhaps she likes the bigger you but social norms triggered her condemnation when you discussed with her. It is the perfect time of year to indulge anyway. You could probably gain 10 pounds between now and New Years without having to chug cream or maltodextrin. Test her reaction to just gaining some "holiday weight" I'm sure it would be more fun to gain with your wife's support, possibly chugging cream was a little bit much for her right now, but who knows, she might enjoy a few extra pounds you just put on by enjoying calorie rich food. This time of year gives you a great excuse, almost everyone gains weight this time of year.
Over the past two years I’ve put on around 50 lbs unintentional. I have always had a huge interest in purposely putting on fat and from time to time I’d drink a quart of heavy cream a few days in a row and then stop. I absolutely loved the feeling of my belly getting softer.
Last night I told my wife I’d like to gain some weight on purpose and see how it is. I had bought a quart of heavy cream on my way home. I told her this and she called me weird and absolutely condemned it. I said I just wanted to try it for a month and see what happens.
She said she was going to dump the cream out but I had already chugged it at that point. I ordered some maltodextrin to accelerate the progress and now I wanna do it even more in secret. I’m planning on 1 quart a day mixed with maltodextrin. What’s the worst that could happen in a few weeks, right?
Munchies:
Hospital
This isn't going to end well. Not only are you going to make yourself sick, but you are also doing to ruin your relationship.
How about you actually grow a pair, act like you actually love your wife, and be an adult. Talk to her. Figure out where her concerns are coming from. See where you can compromise. Work with her and she is more likely to work with you.
What are you going to do when the heavy cream and maltodextrin makes you sick (because it will make you very sick) and she has to worry about you not dying, paying for your hospital bills, and how that financial stress from your selfishness will impact other financial aspects in your lives.
Ninjaturtle94:
We did talk for a while about it. She just says it’s not healthy and doesn’t support it. After further reading I’m not going to take the maltodextrin.
Highway:
I can understand the difficulty when your wife condemns your wanting to gain. It seems as though your already fairly big so I'm curious if your wife fought you on your weight gain to this point. If she hasn't, then perhaps she likes the bigger you but social norms triggered her condemnation when you discussed with her. It is the perfect time of year to indulge anyway. You could probably gain 10 pounds between now and New Years without having to chug cream or maltodextrin. Test her reaction to just gaining some "holiday weight" I'm sure it would be more fun to gain with your wife's support, possibly chugging cream was a little bit much for her right now, but who knows, she might enjoy a few extra pounds you just put on by enjoying calorie rich food. This time of year gives you a great excuse, almost everyone gains weight this time of year.
Nah, don't do that. All that will happen is she will interpret this as him being disrespectful to her fears and concerns as well as rejecting their marriage for his fetish.
This is not a position OP needs to be in.
2 weeks
Fattening in secret
Ninjaturtle94:
Over the past two years I’ve put on around 50 lbs unintentional. I have always had a huge interest in purposely putting on fat and from time to time I’d drink a quart of heavy cream a few days in a row and then stop. I absolutely loved the feeling of my belly getting softer.
Last night I told my wife I’d like to gain some weight on purpose and see how it is. I had bought a quart of heavy cream on my way home. I told her this and she called me weird and absolutely condemned it. I said I just wanted to try it for a month and see what happens.
She said she was going to dump the cream out but I had already chugged it at that point. I ordered some maltodextrin to accelerate the progress and now I wanna do it even more in secret. I’m planning on 1 quart a day mixed with maltodextrin. What’s the worst that could happen in a few weeks, right?
Munchies:
Hospital
This isn't going to end well. Not only are you going to make yourself sick, but you are also doing to ruin your relationship.
How about you actually grow a pair, act like you actually love your wife, and be an adult. Talk to her. Figure out where her concerns are coming from. See where you can compromise. Work with her and she is more likely to work with you.
What are you going to do when the heavy cream and maltodextrin makes you sick (because it will make you very sick) and she has to worry about you not dying, paying for your hospital bills, and how that financial stress from your selfishness will impact other financial aspects in your lives.
Ninjaturtle94:
We did talk for a while about it. She just says it’s not healthy and doesn’t support it. After further reading I’m not going to take the maltodextrin.
Highway:
I can understand the difficulty when your wife condemns your wanting to gain. It seems as though your already fairly big so I'm curious if your wife fought you on your weight gain to this point. If she hasn't, then perhaps she likes the bigger you but social norms triggered her condemnation when you discussed with her. It is the perfect time of year to indulge anyway. You could probably gain 10 pounds between now and New Years without having to chug cream or maltodextrin. Test her reaction to just gaining some "holiday weight" I'm sure it would be more fun to gain with your wife's support, possibly chugging cream was a little bit much for her right now, but who knows, she might enjoy a few extra pounds you just put on by enjoying calorie rich food. This time of year gives you a great excuse, almost everyone gains weight this time of year.
Ninjaturtle94:
One thing that scared her is that she thinks I’d like the feeling of gaining weight too much and not want to stop. She said she read about it and thinks I could get addicted to feeling myself get bigger.
Over the past two years I’ve put on around 50 lbs unintentional. I have always had a huge interest in purposely putting on fat and from time to time I’d drink a quart of heavy cream a few days in a row and then stop. I absolutely loved the feeling of my belly getting softer.
Last night I told my wife I’d like to gain some weight on purpose and see how it is. I had bought a quart of heavy cream on my way home. I told her this and she called me weird and absolutely condemned it. I said I just wanted to try it for a month and see what happens.
She said she was going to dump the cream out but I had already chugged it at that point. I ordered some maltodextrin to accelerate the progress and now I wanna do it even more in secret. I’m planning on 1 quart a day mixed with maltodextrin. What’s the worst that could happen in a few weeks, right?
Munchies:
Hospital
This isn't going to end well. Not only are you going to make yourself sick, but you are also doing to ruin your relationship.
How about you actually grow a pair, act like you actually love your wife, and be an adult. Talk to her. Figure out where her concerns are coming from. See where you can compromise. Work with her and she is more likely to work with you.
What are you going to do when the heavy cream and maltodextrin makes you sick (because it will make you very sick) and she has to worry about you not dying, paying for your hospital bills, and how that financial stress from your selfishness will impact other financial aspects in your lives.
Ninjaturtle94:
We did talk for a while about it. She just says it’s not healthy and doesn’t support it. After further reading I’m not going to take the maltodextrin.
Highway:
I can understand the difficulty when your wife condemns your wanting to gain. It seems as though your already fairly big so I'm curious if your wife fought you on your weight gain to this point. If she hasn't, then perhaps she likes the bigger you but social norms triggered her condemnation when you discussed with her. It is the perfect time of year to indulge anyway. You could probably gain 10 pounds between now and New Years without having to chug cream or maltodextrin. Test her reaction to just gaining some "holiday weight" I'm sure it would be more fun to gain with your wife's support, possibly chugging cream was a little bit much for her right now, but who knows, she might enjoy a few extra pounds you just put on by enjoying calorie rich food. This time of year gives you a great excuse, almost everyone gains weight this time of year.
Ninjaturtle94:
One thing that scared her is that she thinks I’d like the feeling of gaining weight too much and not want to stop. She said she read about it and thinks I could get addicted to feeling myself get bigger.
Do you feel like this is a valid concern of hers? Because from the limited interaction when you, I am getting those vibes too.
2 weeks
Fattening in secret
Ninjaturtle94:
Also, when she read a post on Reddit about it she found a post of a girl saying her bf wanted to gain like 50 pounds or so and everyone was saying he was lying and that was just the start and told her he’s weird and to run.
My wife claims she hasn’t noticed me gain any weight. I have a muscular frame so maybe that helps idk.
Also, when she read a post on Reddit about it she found a post of a girl saying her bf wanted to gain like 50 pounds or so and everyone was saying he was lying and that was just the start and told her he’s weird and to run.
My wife claims she hasn’t noticed me gain any weight. I have a muscular frame so maybe that helps idk.
Take Reddit advise with a grain of salt. Sometimes it's good. Sometimes it's bad. But it doesn't sound like you two have had a proper heart to heart. Like actually listening to each other and communicating effectively.
2 weeks
Fattening in secret
Ninjaturtle94:
Also, when she read a post on Reddit about it she found a post of a girl saying her bf wanted to gain like 50 pounds or so and everyone was saying he was lying and that was just the start and told her he’s weird and to run.
My wife claims she hasn’t noticed me gain any weight. I have a muscular frame so maybe that helps idk.
Munchies:
Take Reddit advise with a grain of salt. Sometimes it's good. Sometimes it's bad. But it doesn't sound like you two have had a proper heart to heart. Like actually listening to each other and communicating effectively.
Ninjaturtle94:
We talked for a while last night but like you said I’m not sure how effective it was. She basically said no and there is no compromise. I don’t think that I would have a problem stopping once I start. But I’ve also never done it at this level before.
I exercise 4x a week and eat pretty healthy and get regular labs done. I feel like trying it out for December really isn’t that big of a deal but maybe I don’t fully grasp what I could be getting in to
Also, when she read a post on Reddit about it she found a post of a girl saying her bf wanted to gain like 50 pounds or so and everyone was saying he was lying and that was just the start and told her he’s weird and to run.
My wife claims she hasn’t noticed me gain any weight. I have a muscular frame so maybe that helps idk.
Munchies:
Take Reddit advise with a grain of salt. Sometimes it's good. Sometimes it's bad. But it doesn't sound like you two have had a proper heart to heart. Like actually listening to each other and communicating effectively.
Ninjaturtle94:
We talked for a while last night but like you said I’m not sure how effective it was. She basically said no and there is no compromise. I don’t think that I would have a problem stopping once I start. But I’ve also never done it at this level before.
I exercise 4x a week and eat pretty healthy and get regular labs done. I feel like trying it out for December really isn’t that big of a deal but maybe I don’t fully grasp what I could be getting in to
You really don't. There are two major aspects of gaining - physical and mental. Most people focus on the physical, but it's the mental aspect that gets ya.
You are looking to engage in spiteful gaining. That is the most dangerous kind of gaining because it clouds your judgement. You've already shown signs of it too.
You chugged a quart of heavy cream before your wife could throw it away.
You planned on consuming excessive amounts of heavy cream and maltodextrin in secret specifically because your wife doesn't approve.
How long before you start stuffing your face whenever you two start fighting? How long before you start engaging in reckless, rapid gains specifically because it will piss off your wife?
Next thing you know, getting fat is all you'll care about to the detriment of everyone and everything else in your life.
2 weeks
Fattening in secret
Munchies:
You really don't. There are two major aspects of gaining - physical and mental. Most people focus on the physical, but it's the mental aspect that gets ya.
You are looking to engage in spiteful gaining. That is the most dangerous kind of gaining because it clouds your judgement. You've already shown signs of it too.
You chugged a quart of heavy cream before your wife could throw it away.
You planned on consuming excessive amounts of heavy cream and maltodextrin in secret specifically because your wife doesn't approve.
How long before you start stuffing your face whenever you two start fighting? How long before you start engaging in reckless, rapid gains specifically because it will piss off your wife?
Next thing you know, getting fat is all you'll care about to the detriment of everyone and everything else in your life.
Ninjaturtle94:
I honestly never would have thought that a sexual thrill could turn into something like that. I’m really not looking to piss her off I’ve just wanted to try it for a long time and if I do it and get it over with I can at least have the closure of trying it and then maybe I won’t want to do it again. Then I can just kinda lurk and see other
People do it
You really don't. There are two major aspects of gaining - physical and mental. Most people focus on the physical, but it's the mental aspect that gets ya.
You are looking to engage in spiteful gaining. That is the most dangerous kind of gaining because it clouds your judgement. You've already shown signs of it too.
You chugged a quart of heavy cream before your wife could throw it away.
You planned on consuming excessive amounts of heavy cream and maltodextrin in secret specifically because your wife doesn't approve.
How long before you start stuffing your face whenever you two start fighting? How long before you start engaging in reckless, rapid gains specifically because it will piss off your wife?
Next thing you know, getting fat is all you'll care about to the detriment of everyone and everything else in your life.
Ninjaturtle94:
I honestly never would have thought that a sexual thrill could turn into something like that. I’m really not looking to piss her off I’ve just wanted to try it for a long time and if I do it and get it over with I can at least have the closure of trying it and then maybe I won’t want to do it again. Then I can just kinda lurk and see other
People do it
It's not about the fetish. It's about the mentality. And if you don't find a healthy way to approach this situation, your marriage is over.
It's a tale as old as time.
2 weeks
Fattening in secret
Munchies:
You really don't. There are two major aspects of gaining - physical and mental. Most people focus on the physical, but it's the mental aspect that gets ya.
You are looking to engage in spiteful gaining. That is the most dangerous kind of gaining because it clouds your judgement. You've already shown signs of it too.
You chugged a quart of heavy cream before your wife could throw it away.
You planned on consuming excessive amounts of heavy cream and maltodextrin in secret specifically because your wife doesn't approve.
How long before you start stuffing your face whenever you two start fighting? How long before you start engaging in reckless, rapid gains specifically because it will piss off your wife?
Next thing you know, getting fat is all you'll care about to the detriment of everyone and everything else in your life.
Ninjaturtle94:
I honestly never would have thought that a sexual thrill could turn into something like that. I’m really not looking to piss her off I’ve just wanted to try it for a long time and if I do it and get it over with I can at least have the closure of trying it and then maybe I won’t want to do it again. Then I can just kinda lurk and see other
People do it
Munchies:
It's not about the fetish. It's about the mentality. And if you don't find a healthy way to approach this situation, your marriage is over.
It's a tale as old as time.
Ninjaturtle94:
How would you suggest we move forward? What could a compromise look like? Or do you think gaining is not really in my cards
You really don't. There are two major aspects of gaining - physical and mental. Most people focus on the physical, but it's the mental aspect that gets ya.
You are looking to engage in spiteful gaining. That is the most dangerous kind of gaining because it clouds your judgement. You've already shown signs of it too.
You chugged a quart of heavy cream before your wife could throw it away.
You planned on consuming excessive amounts of heavy cream and maltodextrin in secret specifically because your wife doesn't approve.
How long before you start stuffing your face whenever you two start fighting? How long before you start engaging in reckless, rapid gains specifically because it will piss off your wife?
Next thing you know, getting fat is all you'll care about to the detriment of everyone and everything else in your life.
Ninjaturtle94:
I honestly never would have thought that a sexual thrill could turn into something like that. I’m really not looking to piss her off I’ve just wanted to try it for a long time and if I do it and get it over with I can at least have the closure of trying it and then maybe I won’t want to do it again. Then I can just kinda lurk and see other
People do it
Munchies:
It's not about the fetish. It's about the mentality. And if you don't find a healthy way to approach this situation, your marriage is over.
It's a tale as old as time.
Ninjaturtle94:
How would you suggest we move forward? What could a compromise look like? Or do you think gaining is not really in my cards
It's one of those "It takes two to tango" kinds of things. You both have to be willing to engage with this.
But I'd tackle this in a nonconfrontational way. Wait until you two are just hanging out. Say, "I've been thinking about our conversation about me gaining weight. Your concerns are important to me. However, gaining weight is something that's important to me too. Can we talk about ways for us navigate this?"
Marital counseling and sex therapy may need to be on the table as well.
Invite her to see the kinds of things you enjoy in this community. Show her an insider's perspective instead of an outsider's perspective.
But don't push her. Let her engage with these things at her own speed. Be open and honest with her in all things.
But most of all, be patient. Based on how she reacted, I suspect there's a lot more to this than even she has unpacked.
2 weeks
Fattening in secret
Munchies:
It's not about the fetish. It's about the mentality. And if you don't find a healthy way to approach this situation, your marriage is over.
It's a tale as old as time.
Ninjaturtle94:
How would you suggest we move forward? What could a compromise look like? Or do you think gaining is not really in my cards
Munchies:
It's one of those "It takes two to tango" kinds of things. You both have to be willing to engage with this.
But I'd tackle this in a nonconfrontational way. Wait until you two are just hanging out. Say, "I've been thinking about our conversation about me gaining weight. Your concerns are important to me. However, gaining weight is something that's important to me too. Can we talk about ways for us navigate this?"
Marital counseling and sex therapy may need to be on the table as well.
Invite her to see the kinds of things you enjoy in this community. Show her an insider's perspective instead of an outsider's perspective.
But don't push her. Let her engage with these things at her own speed. Be open and honest with her in all things.
But most of all, be patient. Based on how she reacted, I suspect there's a lot more to this than even she has unpacked.
Ninjaturtle94:
I do feel like maybe she is holding something back. I’m not really sure what it is but I think there may be something else to it. I made sure to tell her I didn’t expect her to engage in it as far as feeding or really have any interest but it was just something I wanted to try
I have asked her before about touching my belly and love handles during sex and just in general and she was not for it and said it was weird and made her uncomfortable. So I figured I could maybe just enjoy this fetish by myself
It's not about the fetish. It's about the mentality. And if you don't find a healthy way to approach this situation, your marriage is over.
It's a tale as old as time.
Ninjaturtle94:
How would you suggest we move forward? What could a compromise look like? Or do you think gaining is not really in my cards
Munchies:
It's one of those "It takes two to tango" kinds of things. You both have to be willing to engage with this.
But I'd tackle this in a nonconfrontational way. Wait until you two are just hanging out. Say, "I've been thinking about our conversation about me gaining weight. Your concerns are important to me. However, gaining weight is something that's important to me too. Can we talk about ways for us navigate this?"
Marital counseling and sex therapy may need to be on the table as well.
Invite her to see the kinds of things you enjoy in this community. Show her an insider's perspective instead of an outsider's perspective.
But don't push her. Let her engage with these things at her own speed. Be open and honest with her in all things.
But most of all, be patient. Based on how she reacted, I suspect there's a lot more to this than even she has unpacked.
Ninjaturtle94:
I do feel like maybe she is holding something back. I’m not really sure what it is but I think there may be something else to it. I made sure to tell her I didn’t expect her to engage in it as far as feeding or really have any interest but it was just something I wanted to try
I have asked her before about touching my belly and love handles during sex and just in general and she was not for it and said it was weird and made her uncomfortable. So I figured I could maybe just enjoy this fetish by myself
Sounds like she has some fatphobia going on. This is a powder keg situation that you have not taken the time to properly appreciate. I would not proceed until you untangle ... whatever this is.
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