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H203:
I’ve been on this site for a very long time, using several now-deleted accounts, and honestly, I’m getting really tired of the lack of real connections. I’ve always enjoyed sharing updates, engaging, and being part of the community, but lately, it just feels like I’m wasting my time. There are so many fake accounts and people who just want to take without giving anything back, and it’s incredibly frustrating when you put yourself out there, share personal updates, and get nothing in return.

I’m not just here for shallow play – I’m looking for something real. For me, it’s not about a fetish or kink; it’s about a genuine connection - not even romantically necessarily, even companionship and friendship would be great. I’ve always loved bigger women, not because of some fantasy, but because I find them genuinely attractive. It’s really tiring being reduced to just a stereotype or a fantasy role.

I had a really crappy experience in the last 24 hours where someone pretended to be legit and I talked sincerely to them and was warm and interested but they gave nothing back. They asked me to post some new photos of myself so I did and they just seemed to be 100% fake.

In response to this, I’ve taken down all my photos and stopped sharing publicly. Now, I only share updates with people I’m sure are real and actually want something more meaningful. But it’s getting harder and harder to find those connections.

As a guy in this community, it’s hard enough to find female companionship just because of the ratio. But it’s just extra disappointing when you put yourself out there and then it’s just someone playing games.

If you’re actually interested in something deeper and more real, then I’m open to talking. If not, I’d rather not waste my time. At the end of the day, it’s about respect and honesty – if we can’t be real here, what’s the point?

I’m just disappointed.

H203:
I’ve been on this site for a very long time, using several now-deleted accounts, and honestly, I’m getting really tired of the lack of real connections. I’ve always enjoyed sharing updates, engaging, and being part of the community, but lately, it just feels like I’m wasting my time. There are so many fake accounts and people who just want to take without giving anything back, and it’s incredibly frustrating when you put yourself out there, share personal updates, and get nothing in return.

I’m not just here for shallow play – I’m looking for something real. For me, it’s not about a fetish or kink; it’s about a genuine connection - not even romantically necessarily, even companionship and friendship would be great. I’ve always loved bigger women, not because of some fantasy, but because I find them genuinely attractive. It’s really tiring being reduced to just a stereotype or a fantasy role.

I had a really crappy experience in the last 24 hours where someone pretended to be legit and I talked sincerely to them and was warm and interested but they gave nothing back. They asked me to post some new photos of myself so I did and they just seemed to be 100% fake.

In response to this, I’ve taken down all my photos and stopped sharing publicly. Now, I only share updates with people I’m sure are real and actually want something more meaningful. But it’s getting harder and harder to find those connections.

As a guy in this community, it’s hard enough to find female companionship just because of the ratio. But it’s just extra disappointing when you put yourself out there and then it’s just someone playing games.

If you’re actually interested in something deeper and more real, then I’m open to talking. If not, I’d rather not waste my time. At the end of the day, it’s about respect and honesty – if we can’t be real here, what’s the point?

I’m just disappointed.

ILuvChubbyChix:
I'm very sorry to hear that.

However, if you do come across scammers, please report them.

Munchies:
Also, fill your profile out. Women who are worth your time are super choosy. If you don't have much to work off of, they might not talk to you.

Good luck

SYxySt2aR:
That sounds horrible. I'm really sorry that you've been through these bad experiences. I hope that future exchanges you have a more authentic and heal your heart and mind from the previous bad experiences. I know there are authentic and great people on here to talk to but yeah everyone's different so it can be hard to find the connection you're specifically looking for.

I wish you the very best and hope you find the interactions and connections you've been hoping to find. 😊

ILuvChubbyChix:
I'm very sorry to hear that.

However, if you do come across scammers, please report them.

Munchies:
Also, fill your profile out. Women who are worth your time are super choosy. If you don't have much to work off of, they might not talk to you.

Good luck

SYxySt2aR:
That sounds horrible. I'm really sorry that you've been through these bad experiences. I hope that future exchanges you have a more authentic and heal your heart and mind from the previous bad experiences. I know there are authentic and great people on here to talk to but yeah everyone's different so it can be hard to find the connection you're specifically looking for.

I wish you the very best and hope you find the interactions and connections you've been hoping to find. 😊

H203:
TYSM, I’m very grateful of the kind words. I honestly think I just didn’t make enough of an effort to put myself out there on this site, in recent years - I’ve got to take responsibility for my part in this.

H203:
I would, but I’m not really sure I could call this person a scammer. More of a catfish… I guess? Although they might be who they claim but still just wasting my time.

H203:
I would, but I’m not really sure I could call this person a scammer. More of a catfish… I guess? Although they might be who they claim but still just wasting my time.

ILuvChubbyChix:
Substantial misrepresentation, or catfishing is also unacceptable and is a potentially ban worthy offense. While they might not being trying to scam you out of money, they often engage in the same kind of behavior. In some ways, it might even be worse, since this is what predators may do.

Certain amounts of fudging is acceptable and even expected. Examples include, but not necessarily limited to might be:

- Height is off by an inch or so.
- Weight is not expected to be up to the day or minute accurate. If you don't want to say, you can use an extreme that clearly doesn't fit the pictures provided (e.g. 100 lbs or 800 lbs).
- You aren't expected to answer income or occupation, etc.
- Location doesn't have to be entirely accurate. It's accepted, even expected that users who don't live in a large city, will often choose the nearest larger city or metro area as a balance between privacy as opposed to cultural and potential meet-up purposes.
- Any pictures of you, if provided, are expected to closely represent what you look like now, or properly represented to mean this is what you looked like in the past.
- No one is expected to potentially highlight negative traits.

I think you get the idea.

This is in contrast to substantial misrepresentation. Where if you were to somehow meet this person face to face, the individual is nothing at all like you expected. Examples of this include:

- Images that look nothing at all like the person, and aren't labeled as such, or it's not immediately obvious it's not.
- Age being incorrect. You can use an extreme outlier if you don't want to answer.
- A male pretending to be female, or vice versa. If you don't want to answer, you can set it to "other." We do recognize that some individuals could discover being trans, but that's why the options of "trans-woman" and "trans-man" exists.
- Pretending to live in another country.

These policies are in place to protect not just you, but both parties in fact. Not to mention, it saves time in case it means you aren't each others' type.

After all, suppose you do ultimately meet the person face to face? What do you think will happen? At best, one person might get up and leave immediately, or might perhaps say something like "Get the fuck out of here, right now." At worst, it could result in severe physical altercation, significant injury, and the police potentially getting involved.

Roleplay isn't prohibited, but you don't have to misrepresent your profile to engage in it, and agree to certain parameters before commencing.

H203:
I’ve been on this site for a very long time, using several now-deleted accounts, and honestly, I’m getting really tired of the lack of real connections. I’ve always enjoyed sharing updates, engaging, and being part of the community, but lately, it just feels like I’m wasting my time. There are so many fake accounts and people who just want to take without giving anything back, and it’s incredibly frustrating when you put yourself out there, share personal updates, and get nothing in return.

I’m not just here for shallow play – I’m looking for something real. For me, it’s not about a fetish or kink; it’s about a genuine connection - not even romantically necessarily, even companionship and friendship would be great. I’ve always loved bigger women, not because of some fantasy, but because I find them genuinely attractive. It’s really tiring being reduced to just a stereotype or a fantasy role.

I had a really crappy experience in the last 24 hours where someone pretended to be legit and I talked sincerely to them and was warm and interested but they gave nothing back. They asked me to post some new photos of myself so I did and they just seemed to be 100% fake.

In response to this, I’ve taken down all my photos and stopped sharing publicly. Now, I only share updates with people I’m sure are real and actually want something more meaningful. But it’s getting harder and harder to find those connections.

As a guy in this community, it’s hard enough to find female companionship just because of the ratio. But it’s just extra disappointing when you put yourself out there and then it’s just someone playing games.

If you’re actually interested in something deeper and more real, then I’m open to talking. If not, I’d rather not waste my time. At the end of the day, it’s about respect and honesty – if we can’t be real here, what’s the point?

I’m just disappointed.