Gaining

Hey everyone!

I'm currently exploring weight gain in a more long-term and realistic way. I'm 21 yo, man, a mesomorph body type, around 5'8" tall (173 cm), and the last time I weighed myself (about two months ago), I was 170 lbs (77 kg). My goal is to reach around 220 lbs (100 kg) eventually.

But here's the catch: I want to gain in the healthiest way possible while still being visibly fat—especially with a noticeable belly. I want to feel full, heavy, and soft, but not completely lose my energy or mobility.

I'm planning to:

Keep doing some physical activity, especially for my legs and glutes (since they'll carry more weight).

Do upper body workouts once a week just to maintain strength.

Stretch regularly to avoid stiffness.

Focus my eating mostly on calorie-dense but healthy foods (like peanut butter, whole milk, eggs, avocados, etc.).


I live in Brazil, and I'm part of the lower middle class, so I need to balance my budget—I'm paying rent and can’t go overboard with expensive foods or supplements (im literally gaining through chocolate milk, rice and beans, and stuff like that. Brazil is hard sometimes)

So here are my questions:

If I stick to this routine, how far could I go safely? Is 220 lbs a realistic and still “healthy” weight for someone my height and build? Would it be possible to go over that and still be healthy?

If possible to help me visualize: What would I look like at 220 lbs if I keep a little muscle but gain mostly fat? (I’d love a soft belly with a bit of overhang if it’s realistic.)


Any insights, experiences, or even visual references would be awesome. Thanks in advance! And sorry if the writing or the understanding is hard to catch, yk... nit my first language

This is a very personal question that will ultimately depend on how you define “healthy.” Unfortunately, the current body of evidence suggests that it’s unfeasible to become obese without significant risk to your health. You’ve probably heard of the “health at every size” movement, which in my experience is especially prevalent in the feederism community, but it’s not based in reality.

To provide just one example, there was a large study published in JACC back in 2017 that found that even among obese patients who are “metabolically healthy” (i.e. no hypertension, dyslipidemia, or diabetes), the risks of developing coronary artery disease, cerebrovascular disease, and heart failure were increased by 49%, 7%, and 96%, respectively, relative to control patients who were “metabolically healthy” but had a normal BMI. All three of these risk increases were statistically significant despite adjustment for confounding variables.

At the end of the day, I think what’s most important is that we do what makes us happy. In my case, I’ve purposefully gained 166 pounds over the past 10 years, and I’m trying to gain at least a little more, even though I’m already well into the territory of morbid obesity. I understand that indulging in feederism is likely going to shorten my lifespan by several years, but the desire to be fat is such a huge part of who I am (both sexually and otherwise) and the improvement in my self-image that comes along with having a massive belly is so profound that I genuinely believe that the tradeoff is worth it. In other words, while I’d give anything to not have this fetish, I acknowledge that it’s never going to happen, and I’d rather die in my late 60s having lived the life I wanted than live into my 70s without the fulfillment I feel from gaining weight.

So what I’m saying is that all you can really do is ensure that you’re educated regarding the risks and then just ask yourself how important gaining is to you as an individual. There’s no right or wrong answer here because it’s going to be different for everyone. That being said, I do think it’s important to recognize the fact that as much as we may try to mitigate it, obesity in and of itself will always pose at least some risk to our health (despite what certain corners of the Internet will try to tell you).

I’ve had this interest in getting fat since quite early in my life, and I’ve spent a good amount of time trying to understand it while also pursuing a fit body...

I’m not planning to get too heavy (even though I find it extremely attractive), but I do understand what you said about the “relativeness” — or even the technical absence — of health when it comes to gaining fat.

That said, when I weigh everything — especially considering how the world seems to be spiraling into an endless stream of problems, lol — I feel like taking some risks and maybe trading a few years of life to fulfill this desire is something I can accept.

Thanks again for your reply, it was very enlightening.