Lifestyle tips

Hi everyone,

I wanted to share a bit about my journey and ask for some honest perspectives from people who’ve been through similar situations. I’ve been going back and forth in my head about this for a while, and I figured this might be a good place to open up and hear how others have handled it.

I’ve been chubby for most of my life since childhood, really. For a long time, it made me feel uncomfortable and self-conscious, especially around friends or in social situations. In 2022-2023, I finally decided to go on a diet and managed to lose some weight. I dropped from around 96 kg to 82 kg, and I stayed at that weight for about two years.

But lately, I’ve started to slip back into old habits. I’ve been eating a lot more fast food pizza, McDonald’s, Burger King, and all that stuff. I’ve noticed my belly getting bigger, and some of my clothes have started to feel tighter again.

Here’s where it gets complicated: even though I still feel uncomfortable in public or around people, I’ve also noticed that I’m starting to enjoy how my belly feels. I’ve caught myself playing with it without even thinking, and I’m definitely craving greasy food more and more. It’s like part of me wants to lose control, while another part of me still feels pressure to stay slim or at least “under control.”
To add to all this, I’ve always been into fat girls and I really believe in body positivity. I admire people who embrace their bodies confidently, regardless of size. But when it comes to me, it’s not always that simple. There’s also a lot of pressure from family and sometimes their comments make me feel even more conflicted. I don’t know how much of my desire to stay slim comes from myself versus how much is just me trying to meet other people’s expectations.

I’m not necessarily looking for someone to tell me what to do, but I’d love to hear your stories, your thought processes, and maybe how you found peace with whatever direction you took.

Yeah, the hardest part for me is honestly food itself. Back when I lost the weight, I felt like I had control—I was more mindful and could say no to cravings. But recently, it’s like that control is gone. I’ve been eating so much junk food, especially fast food, and I just can’t seem to stop myself when I see something tasty.

Now it’s starting to show—my clothes are feeling tighter, and even when I look in the mirror, I can see that my belly has definitely gotten bigger. It’s a weird mix of concern and curiosity, like part of me is worried, but part of me is also just... letting it happen.

Personally, I'd stay where you are at until you decide what you want.

kinda dope you get a choice, for me and many others it wasnt really a conscious choice, our weight gains were something that happened that we had (some) control over. since you get to reflect on the question my advise would be to take your time theres no rush enjoy your food. dont do things that are gross unless you enjoy them, no hate towards people who for example eat butter, thats yucky. theres no need eating big is natural for alot of people just let your body do its thing

I agree with comments made, stay at your Size till you fully consider your wants and circumstances. Having said that I gauge that you wish to explore being bigger and find it intriguing but feel restricted by social and family factors. I guess you need to decide if you wish to please others more than yourself.