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Have you made your interests publi with friends and family members? Or are you lowkey trying to be sneaky about it or hide it at all?

Everyone knows my preference is fat guys. My partner is 400 lbs. My kink-friendly friends know that I am a feeder. I do not discuss my kink with family.

I'd say my closest friends know I'm riddled with kinks, but most just know I like fat guys. My husband is a big guy, and I've been vocal in that preference since school crushes. So my parents and close family are pretty aware too.

But like deep core kink stuff is pretty much locked up and someone on here reasoned to me once before that it really isn't anyone else's business. Which, fair. But I suppose if there were more observable side effects, like gaining, people could ask questions and one might have to choose how to respond. Hypothetically, I'd probably downplay, divert, and deny if necessary. Being an "out" feeder seems too exposing and unnecessarily so. But being openly into big guys feels important to me.

you cant really hide much at all if youre over 500 pounds. youre kinda like the one everyone eyes up when you or they enter a room.

i dont "hide" that im a big eater, but i tend not to eat as much when im out and about or at lunch with people from work, but thats more so i want to be comfortable at work - i just dont think about the opinions of other people when i want to eat. it is what it is. theres a bit of expectation youre a big eater when youre big so people dont think much of it - but when its a digusting ammount like say 14 cheesburgers theres a smidge of shame with it.

I've always tried to keep this kink secret, stuffing myself only when there's no one else around. That's why I really started packing on the pounds after I graduated and started living on my own. Family encounters have been awkward for me, because my family members often criticize me for my appearance and complain that I'm not losing / keep gaining weight. I have a feeling they wouldn't be any supportive even if I decided to lose weight. When it comes to friends, they barley said anything about my weight gain (even though obviously noticed it), with a few exceptions, where they appeared to be sincerely concerned about my wellbeing. I also have to mention that I recently got turned down by a friend (with an implication that I'm too fat for her). Yeah, life really sucks when you're fat.

A few friends (and some ex-partners) know about it. It's generally not something I broadcast, though.

My family definitely don't need to know about it, but I made a lot of art in my teens, sometimes with very fat people and I'm not sure how well I concealed my tracks. There's a medium-sized chance that my mom knows about it, but I'm just going to go back to compartmentalising that.