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Is it possible to have a "normal" relationship with this fetish?

First off, welcome to FF, and we hope you enjoy your stay.

I'm not sure if I fully understand your question. I guess it depends on what you definition of a "normal relationship" is? Some clarification on this point would be nice.

I hope you are not implying that folks in relationships where one or both of them are large and heavy, isn't "normal." If you are, you might find yourself not well received here.

There are plenty of members here in fulfilling relationships. Long term relationships, even marriages, divorces, second marriages, raising kids together, etc.

Such relationships however, do tend to be built on other things, in addition to or outside the fetish.

It's true that amongst our membership, users tend to be a good bit heavier than the average in their respective countries. However, the vast majority aren't so large that they are prevented from engaging in typical day to day life and able to engage in primary life activities, such as being able to shower, maintain a home, go to work, etc., and to do so independently.

While there are a small number who may actually engage in the more extreme aspects of the fetish, such as immobility and helplessness, they are the rare, uncommon exception, not the rule.

Even within feederism communities, some topics are still highly controversial and borderline taboo - most notably, death feederism and immobility. The vast majority are not interested in such things.

Fantasy is also a big part for many of us, but most will never actually engage in these things in real life. Sometimes I might dream about polishing off an entire buffet table, but I know that simply isn't possible.

The majority are also generally cognizant of the fact that weight gain would have to cease at some point, and they do not want the relationship to end because that comes to an end.

I think most of us would want a relationship like most others. Taking me for example, I would look for a lady who's sweet and friendly, but is strong and won't take B.S. Maybe a bit bubbly or goofy, but knows how to be serious. Intelligent, respectable, honest to a fault (but hardly a saint), and responsible, since I wish to have a kid or two someday. Someone I find attractive, and hopefully finds me attractive too. Someone who has pride, a sense of decency, and knows how to take care of herself. Independent, and probably doesn't need me, but wants to be with me. Sounds pretty much normal, right?

I just so happen to think the ideal lady for me is a BBW who weighs something like 250-400ish lbs, perhaps likes cooking, and knows all about the delicious food/eats.

I hope this answers your question.
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Is it possible to have a "normal" relationship with this fetish?

Yomankev32:
Hi, thanks for taking the time to respond. By no means did I mean anything derogatory toward anyone in this community, and I apologize if that’s how I came across.

I appreciate your explanations. I meant to say:

I am looking for those that are interested in not just gaining but also those that enjoy leading a fit and active lifestyle whose values strongly mirror my own. For me it’s not just about finding someone with this fetish. It’s about finding someone who enjoys a wide variety of other hobbies and interests, and will occasionally enjoy some of the fun that comes with enjoying good food and slight weight gain and teasing.

I understand there are many types of people on this site who have varying interests in this fetish. I guess I just wanted to see if there were others that shared a similar view. And eventually find a woman, either on here or somewhere in person that shares a similar mindset.

But my mind is completely open to learning more about others on here and the different aspects of this fetish. Because quite frankly I’ve kept myself in the dark for so long and have just lurked from afar lol.

Just seeing if there’s anyone like me who has hidden this interest from the world and is wanting to meet someone who understands what that’s like and wants to get to know each other smiley


It really depends on what you are looking for.

If you are looking for someone who has a whole life outside of this fetish, then that's most of us. If you mean someone who tries to keep their weight down to be more ... undercover, so to speak, then you're probably looking for a non-gaining feedee, bloater, inflationist, or even a padder. If you want someone who is happy to gain but still takes care of their health, you can definitely find them.
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