Feeder/Feedee

"Members looking for a feeding relationship, either real world or online, but not looking to date.

I'm honestly a bit bewildered by this description. Why would you want to feed someone but not date?
I think that kind of "relationship" is essentially parasitical in nature. And while I suppose there will always be people who will want the "no strings attached" ways to get their jollies, I honestly don't understand how people can choose to live that way long term.
Genuinely confused and curious.

I've always just seen it as that person basically grifting for free money and meals from simps online, and there are people out there that definitely enable it.. which hey. Good for them I guess. I suppose for known established content creators and models it makes a bit more sense, but for random accounts it really does come across as disingenuous, you're not the only one in that regards for sure.

It just seems like every time a girl says she's a feedee on here or Feabie, they don't mean they want an actual relationship, they just want some schmuck online to send them money. What's up with that?

I would legitimately feed the hell out of a feedee gf, but to just send money to someone I don't even know just seems so pathetic to me.
Even if they use it to buy food and send pictures or videos... What's the point of that really?

Most likely they are lieing about being single and really have a bf or husband. They just want some one to buy them free stuff.

Amen

Quite possibly... What a pity.

And that's totally fine and respectable but I think it's like, people wanting to be fed without any type of relationships or friendship at all, wont even talk unless you're waving money in their face, not open to short term even or anything at all - just comes across as disingenuous, scammy (even if they're real) and lame unless they're known content creators ofc

My 2 cents as a girl and feedee on here.

Some background:
I am not asking people for money on here, but also won't turn down a free meal if someone offers. I would much prefer a long term relationship with a feeder i can trust over a short term or quick feeding session.

Now, I'm not jumping into a relationship with anyone, but if I were to find a feeder that i clicked with i would totally be down for a relationship.

The reality of what I find:
The problem i find with too many guys tho is that the conversation is very fetish centric and 1 dimensional and i lose interest quickly.

On the inverse of what you're saying what i see from my side is a lot of guys who are too closeted to want to be in a relationship and clearly just want some *** material and then drop off quickly if they won't get that

This overall behavior i think lends to more girls not bothering to try getting into a relationship with a feeder because the trust and connection is never built

I see you all assuming they're just trying to make money or in a relationship already and while those are true in some cases, I think its a bit more complex than that.

With the way society treats fat and this fetish its hard for some people to justify a long term stay in it and that makes it hars to commit to investing in a life partner that wants this as a permanent fascet of the relationship

While I know other girls that would like more than just random feeding sessions paid for, these communities (here and feabie) don't foster that at all for us.

Additionally the fact that there is money involved means the community is often full of scammers just trying to take advantage as well

Its hard to get invested in someone who isnt willing to invest in you for more than this fetish and often gets objectified for some body charactersics and/or the kink they're involved in.

Relationships take time to build and imo this is a tough place to expect that to be happen

Very well thought out reply Randi, I really agree with everything you just said and I'll be quick to apologize if it sounded like all I was doing was ripping on girls on here. Very well spoken, thanks for sharing because it's true a lot of guys need to hear that too cause basic manners and mutual respect go a long way.

Didn't think you were necessarily "ripping" on women on the site, but moreso simplifying and generalizing.

Wanted to clarify that while those circumstances do often exist (and might even be a norm) there is more variety and complexity to the existence of women on here.

And just to do the same for the flip side it definitely isn't all men on here that act the ways I described and some of the same factors for women, like social stigma, also apply to them as well.

This is a hard lifestyle to be committed to wholeheartedly 100% of the time. Even as someone who identifies as a feedee, my desire and ability to gain and participate comes and goes in waves and i can't commit all my time to being a fatty, so it makes more sense to find someone who enjoys this, but also shares other interests and chemistry so the relationship doesn't fall flat during those inbetween times