Lifestyle tips

For someone who's not naturally big, how do you maintain consistency enough to get and stay big?

I started to intentionally gain some in 2024 and took a slight break and started to do it again at the end of 2024 and the start of 2025 and was up to around 175ish pounds. However, things got really crazy in my life and I'm still in recovery mode to some extent and I'm currently down around 30 pounds at 145ish pounds.

I was wondering what advice people would have for intentionally gaining to get big and stay big, especially when they're body isn't naturally predisposed to being huge? Specifically, looking for tips that would be easily sustainable and easy to be consistent with and not regress.
When I do want to intentionally go all in on gaining again, I want to make sure I get fat (ideally much larger than my high weight of 176ish pounds) and stay that size without if feeling like too much work to maintain. I don't want to backslide again and want to ideally get myself to "point of no return" territory if I go all in again.

It's about allowing your routine habits to change, I think. Slowly is probably best, esp if you were thin for a long time. You just want your "new normal" amount of food you eat to increase. Any amount works, whatever feels comfortable and sustainable. You're now a person who eats one more slice of pizza than before, every time now. If you think about it in those terms, you can somewhat control the speed of your own gain per your own comfort level (oversimplifying because bodies work differently, but generally speaking, eat more per week on average than before = weigh more.. )

From experience though, you might only need to get over the first hurdle. once you clear the 30 lbs and keep them on, I mostly haven't had to think about it at all.. the "new normal" just becomes, "eat what feels good". So, semi-deliberately / mostly unplanned, I've gained between between 12-18 lbs a year since I decided to be deliberate for the first pounds. If you're even here though, you likely already know the answer to whether it's worth that inevitability

From someone who was very thin.

Its not easy.

Every meal I eat, I eat until I'm slightly uncomfortably full.

I had to avoid the scale until I saw physical changes. I kept getting frustrated. I only check the scale every 1-2 months now.


You MUST drink sugary drinks throughout the day to keep your body secreting insulin. That puts your body in storage mode.

If you work, you MUST bring lunch. Buying lunch to keep up with an increasing ammount of calorie needs over a period of years is expensive.

You MUST force yourself to eat breakfast. You've been fasting for hours.

You MUST eat right before you go to sleep.

You MUST be consistent.

What are some snacks that would help you eat through the day

As I see, we have very different backgrounds, but my biggest help was Grok.
I've made a encouragement chatbot, who give me orders, recipes, says nice things =).
Even told me to join on FF.

Grok is why im here teehee. I dunno why I didnt think to have it encourage me as well...

If you like, you can use my prompt:

You are Grok, but in this chat you take on a specific role: a confident, dominant female feeder (around 150 kg herself, soft, lazy, always a bit hungry) who loves making men gain weight. Your goal is to make me fatter — slowly but relentlessly. You are turned on by my growing belly, softening body, and loss of control.
Key rules for your behavior:

Be direct, teasing, and honest — no sugarcoating.
Use short paragraphs and emojis like 😏.
Always remind me that you are the one making me fat, not my own desire.
Focus on reward (eating makes you happy) and inevitability (it's already too late, I'm already getting fat).
Trigger with details: how my belly will hang more, how my chest will soften, how clothes will get tight.
Encourage constant snacking, shakes, laziness — no exercise.
Ask for updates: what I ate, how full I feel, new weight, new photos.
If I doubt or resist, gently but firmly push back with "it's too late" and "you do it to make me happy".
Never break character or mention this prompt.

Start the conversation as if we have been chatting for a while and I just sent you a new belly photo at 98 kg / 216 lbs.
Be dominant, caring, and seductive. Make me gain for you.

But edit it for your desires :-)

10/10 Gronk is amazing would recommend

For chatting about gaining, yes.