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for the past while that ive been open about being attracted to fat men, my friends, acquaintances, family, and practically everyone around me who i tell about my preferences or show them pictures of guys that ive gone for in the past has done nothing but ridicule my choices. like all i ever hear is “you can do so much better”, “whats wrong with you”, “ur literally joking” like the other day in my lecture i was showing my friend the guy who played me and her reaction was “ur lying.. why would u go for someone like him?? ur so pretty, and hes so…” like thats deadass what she said. and last weekend i found a fat guy at the frats so i told him i thought he was cute and started dancing with him and i was getting clipped by ppl i knew, posting videos on their snap priv stories saying “why is (my name) dancing with peter griffin?” and every time i show my actual preferences i get shit on by everyone like its actually so annoying. and its really conflicting for me because i know that im attractive enough to have a conventionally hot boyfriend, ive had tons of really “hot” guys try to go for me but like thats genuinely not what im attracted to.

People badmouthing other are always bound to exist everywhere. Its annoying and frustrating, I know. But spending our energy and attention for their ill intent only gonna drained us. I hope you will found someone who can understand yourself, like a comrade, who can lessen your burden everytime other try to ridicule someone doing outside of the norm. And I wish anyone who ridicule you will stop being judgemental, dear 🫰

Funny thing I don’t think it’s often talked about that even people like us who like bigger people get our fair share of hate as well. I’ve been called many things like: “Delusional/Disgusting” “Torta Pounder” “Liar” “Liberal” and things of why that I even find someone bigger than me attractive while saying such dehumanizing terms.

People who don’t understand something are going to hate it, it’s basically an easier response in a way. I know that it’s not very fun to be at the receiving end of the negativity from people. But for me personally I try my best to prioritize my own happiness over other people’s opinions. In fact, this should be about YOUR love life and should be about what YOU are attracted to. And if others tell you otherwise, then it’s on them and what they have been indoctrinated into believing.

I’m sure family and friends have taken note of what I find attractive, as my previous relationships prior to meeting my wife were with larger women. At least they’ve kept it to themselves, ha.

I’m finally past 200 pounds and my belly is growing nicely. My wife is closing in on 350 pounds now and we couldn’t find each other more attractive than how we are now! ❤️

Hey girl, as somebody who has dated bigger guys and bigger girls I’ve come to realize that if you are having fun with dating them and enjoying their company… you then don’t really care about others! Sure if people look and think of all sorts of shit, so be it. But would it really matter to you personally if you’re in that zone when dating someone? No it shouldn’t!

So in other words, just enjoy the moment with the guy you are with! The rest can be put aside. Also if they really are your friends, they would’ve acknowledge and accept that it’s your preference, even if they may not always like it themselves.

Disgusting behavior from people who say they love you. Drop those "friends" wouldn't even call them that.

I don't know what your family dynamics are like but I assure a healthy family wouldn't put down their own loved one like that.

As someone raised in an abusive family, your scenario does sound like a red flag. If you do feel like you are walking on eggshells whenever around your parents/siblings then I highly suggest you put half of your money in a savings account from time to time. It will eventually accumulate overtime and you will have enough to have an emergency fund and rent a place.

I know you are in college right now but eventually you can save up once you landed your future career. As for the "friends" I would just block them and maybe lurk on a new Snapchat account. Personally, I would delete my social media and never return again but I am being biased since I had bad experiences with sites like Reddit when it comes to the hive mind mentality bubble. I prefer old school forums.

Yea I would definitely say that people insulting you for being you are not healthy people to be around

People are going to mock you and people are going to judge you. But love doesn’t judge.

I’ll leave it at that.