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I just can't see my self in relationship without feedism and it sucks . The problem is this fetish feels so niche. There really isn't that many people near me who are into it me and even less that want a relationship. Everyone now and then someone will come along and give you a bit of hope but it never seems to go anywhere. I just feel like I'm always an expendable second option 😔

Sorry for making a bit of a downer post but I just need to vent and was just wondering if anyone else feels like this ?

I can feel that. I have been searching for female fa, feeder or mutual gainer for long time but never really found one on IRL. I understand that female feeders are rare.

Also distance can be issue because small country and there is no similar minded peope in here.

One resolution would be to move to another country that has more people with samekind preference, like on America.

So I can feel your pain but don't give up. I still believe there is the right one for everyone.

Being in a country like America doesn't really help...

Its still too stigmatized even there where the feeders and FAs are unlikely to stick around.

Its more normalized to be fat, but this kink is still not normal there.

Honestly dating in this age in general is kinda broken even without adding this kink into it.

I find plenty of feedees around, but feeders/FA are hard to come by and rarely stick around or want to meet in any normal capacity

Thank you so much for the comment.

It was my mistake to assume that this fetish is much more normal on America.

I can agree that being older adds challenge to dating.

Hoping that you will find nice person to be with & this person would be on same level with this fetish like feeder or fa. If wanting to gain weight.

Tons of people like to look, but no one wants the responsibility, and the expense spooks most people away. Too many people are "fantasy only" with this, likely because they are unwilling to deal with the complications and ethical dilemma. It honestly feels impossible to find someone in the space.

Yeah and combine closeted feeder with closeted trans attracted and good luck ever finding anyone.

It's like the double whammie of fantasize it but not live it...

This has been my experience as well for the most part.

The name Fantasy in FF is taken very serious on this site. When you have someone who you connect with sometimes they vanish off the site and you restart. Don't give up. There is a Feeder for a Feedee for every feedist.

Speaking from experience.

I just had a disrespectful guy tell me they wanted me to be "their closeted trans and their closeted feedee"...

So many guys on this site ruin the experience altogether 😡

I agree. That's why I kept my gender secret. My most insane DM was this French dude wanting to marry me and rub my feet during my old account.