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Men like seeing BBW, but BBW don't like seeing naked BHM

I think I misunderstood OP's post earlier. But anyhow I myself am a BBW who have previously dated bigger guys.

I will say I have bad experiences with talking to guys on here on my old account. They often come off as desperate and are suddenly in love with you. Expecting you to date them all because they have a body type you like.

I have seen a good chunk of misogyny on here. Even I have once been called "bitchy" years ago from some dude in the chatroom. I don't blame women for wanting to stay private because of that. In matter of fact I set my gender to "other" to avoid unsolicited DM's.

Ignore him he's a troll, go look at all his bizarre posts

I blocked him now. I wish we could hide threads from blocked users but of course the block system is kind of lacking here imo.

1000% agree

I think unfortunately a lot of people get on this site when they're horny, message as many people as they can. Then when someone responds (women or man) they turn the conversation into their fantasy slowly imposing it on the other person. Then if you decline wanting to participate they get mad because they didn't get what they want. People experience it then it ailienates them from wanting to talk to people because who knows if it's gonna be like that again. And the whole platform suffers :c I mean shoot even I've been approached by people who DIDN'T read my profile who tried to push me feeding them onto me. But it also doesn't help that you can't politefully decline someone without using up one of your chats :c

This is exactly the reason I rage quit my account years ago. I deleted what had been a rather impressive documentation of my early gains because I was so turned off by messages and chats from dudes who were clearly only typing with one hand (if you know what I mean) that I didn’t want to participate in our community anymore.

Nowadays I focus my participation mainly on IRL meet-ups in my area, and am in a relationship with an FA with feeder tendencies. I highly recommend this approach if other fatties by choice are meeting up where you live!

LilRascl:
This is exactly the reason I rage quit my account years ago. I deleted what had been a rather impressive documentation of my early gains because I was so turned off by messages and chats from dudes who were clearly only typing with one hand (if you know what I mean) that I didn’t want to participate in our community anymore.

Nowadays I focus my participation mainly on IRL meet-ups in my area, and am in a relationship with an FA with feeder tendencies. I highly recommend this approach if other fatties by choice are meeting up where you live![/quote]

Awh I'm sorry to hear that people kept harassing you that way :c I am happy to hear that you were able to find someone and end up in the dynamic you wanted : D. Unfortunately though not all of us can do this irl due to privacy or personal reasons so we're stuck wading through all the previously mentioned issues. I wonder if we were able to decline messages, or even limit who can message us? (Like requiring a photo to be present, account age, etc) would help alleviate the issue?

There was a point in my time in this community where I was doing IRL meet ups with friends I made here and other feedees/feeders, etc. It definitely made the whole experience so much better. Then Covid happened, and then it feels lkke the whole world changed. Plus online fat chat gets boring after a whole, and especially when ypu have experienced what reality is like