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Stockylove:
Hello everyone, honestly, I posted this here because I didn't know where else to write this topic, but I think "general discussions" is still appropriate.

Anyway, I needed to share this bitterness and disappointment I feel about men. I've always been attracted to men "in theory," but... I don't know, there are a lot of things I don't like about them, in terms of their mentality and behavior, and ultimately, I even find women better than men in many ways. I think, and perhaps I hope, that you can change my mind about my perspective (which may be partly biased or even wrong, I hope so). I also want to say that I am absolutely not a misandrist, and I hope not to offend any other men who read my post; that's not my intention.

But yes, when I think about the type of man I like, or the qualities I would like in a man, I imagine a mature, empathetic man who listens to others, and I see that all these qualities are more prevalent in women than in men. And there are many more things like that, and points that I find problematic with men and that I find women better at. But it would take too long to list them all. But I find that, on a human level, women have far more qualities that could make me fall in love than men. Unfortunately, I'm a gay man, and I hope I'll meet a man like that someday. I've generally been disappointed by the mentality of men in my life. I know it's linked to social norms, gendered upbringing, and the toxic masculinity we've been taught. But I find it sad; I have the impression that the kind of man who could appeal to me is very, very rare.

Stockylove:
Hello everyone, honestly, I posted this here because I didn't know where else to write this topic, but I think "general discussions" is still appropriate.

Anyway, I needed to share this bitterness and disappointment I feel about men. I've always been attracted to men "in theory," but... I don't know, there are a lot of things I don't like about them, in terms of their mentality and behavior, and ultimately, I even find women better than men in many ways. I think, and perhaps I hope, that you can change my mind about my perspective (which may be partly biased or even wrong, I hope so). I also want to say that I am absolutely not a misandrist, and I hope not to offend any other men who read my post; that's not my intention.

But yes, when I think about the type of man I like, or the qualities I would like in a man, I imagine a mature, empathetic man who listens to others, and I see that all these qualities are more prevalent in women than in men. And there are many more things like that, and points that I find problematic with men and that I find women better at. But it would take too long to list them all. But I find that, on a human level, women have far more qualities that could make me fall in love than men. Unfortunately, I'm a gay man, and I hope I'll meet a man like that someday. I've generally been disappointed by the mentality of men in my life. I know it's linked to social norms, gendered upbringing, and the toxic masculinity we've been taught. But I find it sad; I have the impression that the kind of man who could appeal to me is very, very rare.

Fatgirlbelly:
It sounds like you haven't had the best experiences so far and I’m sorry to hear that. You have standards and so you should. It sounds like you are looking for someone with emotional intelligence who you can meet you where you are. There are men like that out there as well as there are women out there who are not.

This space in particular is a difficult one. It’s mostly very surface level but you do find the odd person who is empathetic, kind, intelligent - but they don’t come along ten a penny unfortunately.

Don’t be disheartened! And don’t settle for less than you deserve 🙂

Blue Butters 888:
Y nunca has salido de forma romántica ni con hombres ni con mujeres? :0

Malvineous:
The grass is always greener on the other side. You may be idealizing women because you lack the experience of dating them. There are tons of straight guys voicing similar frustrations about women. The fact is, many people have toxic personalities, regardless of gender, and fetish-based communities have a way of attracting them. Unless you're bi and have dated both, it's probably going to appear one-sided based on your experiences. Peoples' worst qualities don't tend to come out the same way in platonic friendships.