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We’re both very open about our kinks. He’s not into this stuff like I am, but he’s always said he’s here for it if it’s what I like. However, I can’t really seem to get him to participate much in it. I want to be stuffed all of the time and I want to get fat from it, and I want him to encourage me and feed me and worship my belly more. I’ve told him how much all of that turns me on and how I want it, I’ve even told him some specific fantasies, but I think he just feels kind of unsure. I’m a sub through and through so while I’ve tried to take control and show him what I want, it doesn’t usually work out the way I’d like. I just want him to help destroy my body! How do I convince this man to dominate me like this 😩 he has bought me food to stuff myself with twice this week which was very fun. I want to maybe show him that what he’s doing is making me gain weight, but I’m not sure that’s going to reel him in the way it would a feeder. Do I have to make a sacrifice to the fatty gods to get him to shove cake in my mouth and call me a pig? 😅 I just gotta know if anyone has a secret

Patiens! If he is all new to what grew in you for years, give him time to come get familiar with your world. When he brought good to let you over eat, it might be a step towards you.
I'm sorry to say give him time to learn to put you in your place!
Maybe you found out about his kinks you can add to yours?
All the best for both of you!

Pavlovs dog. Everytime he brings you food reward him. Blowjobs kiss snacks. before long he will bring you food all the time

I kinda have to agree with some of the replies here. Find out what really turns him on and reward him with it if he feeds you. The part about the cake is quite hot and hope he agrees to that one day 😁

If he doesn't want to be part of it then that's that, you gotta respect each other's boundaries

i am old now, and i have been in a few long-term relationships where our kinks did not overlap completely. it really isn't that big of an issue.

if you are attracted to each other, care about each other, and really trust each other, i assume you each care about the other's sexual needs, yes? and you probably get off on seeing the other get off, right?

don't force a scenario on them that they're not ready for. try to find ways to incorporate your feeding interests into a setting that they will also enjoy. my experience is that once a non-feedist partner sees how hot feeding makes you, they will dive in because they want to see you get to that place, and take part in it. just be sensitive to their comfort level. they may get more comfortable if you go easy and slow. keep checking in with them.

if you're both subs, that's a different problem. both of you are going to have to find ways to be service-switches, perhaps, and learn what the other is needing/craving.

after 30 years on playing in kink space, the only thing i am sure of is that nothing is forever - if you're lucky, you never stop learning, experiencing new things, and hopefully developing new kinks and interests. so have fun with it!

I am afraid that if someone isn't into a fetish or doesn't understand it, then that is the way the person is. You cannot convince him to be aroused by feeding you. Didn't you talk about your sexual desires before you got married?