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Layla wrote:
I dont know if you're still a virgin or what as this was posted a while ago
but when I was 15, young I know..
I took 3 guys virginities
and I dont know if this sounds bad or not but I did it because these guys were really shy and I knew that if they just had sex once and saw that it wasnt as scary as they thought that after they would be like good to go .. if that makes sense
and I was right, I stayed friends with all of them and after they all got girlfriends within a few months because once you have sex for the first time its like.. almost relieving..because now you know what to do and your not nervous

so I have to disagree with most of the other people that have commented

I say get that hooker and double bag it
hahaha

Kid A wrote:
Everyone's sexual experiences and history are different. Strangers aren't going to be able to tell you what you should do.

ThatGuyWithTheHair wrote:


I think it's conditioning. A lot of people - mostly men, but some women - have internalized the notion that no one having sex with you means no one finds you attractive enough to think of you in that way.

It seems like this is more common among people who are either insecure or don't get compliments on their looks that often.

In fact, I haven't dated in over a year - it's largely due to stuff outside of my control, like the girls I asked out moving to another state or getting pregnant by other guys - and although I get that it's probably not my fault, I still feel like this must mean I'm much less attractive than I previously thought.

I'm in no position to give the OP any advice, sadly, but I just wanted to explain what I think is behind the mentality.

Morever wrote:
It happens. It happened to me as well.
Sometimes is luck, sometime just lack of drive, personality, circumstances, location, family. It can be one of these, or all of them.

The only thing I can say is: don't feel guilty, don't feel like you should be someone you are not. And bugger to whatever other people may think.

M.

Layla wrote:
I havent had sex in 9 months which means Im basically a virgin again