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Don't EVER get gastric bypass surgery--you will not be able to enjoy fried foods, sugary desserts, or carbonated beverages even in small quantities--a fate worse than death! Thank GOD I did not have this hideous surgery; I got the same results from the wonderful book and CD "I Can Make You Thin" by Paul Mckenna. (The tone compassionate, and he's got a Ph. D., he just doesn't go by "Dr." You are encouraged to eat exactly the foods you want, you are hypnotized to eat small portions. Don't knock hypnosis for weight loss until you've tried it--it works! This book and CD are out of print, but easily available on Amazon.com. It worked for 6 million ppl who wanted to be thin. It helped me get pretty trim before I realized that I love being a BBW.

Right on, bro! I will definitely quote you irl (or at least paraphrase you; my memory sucks.) The church gives lousy advice, too, "no sex, before marriage and then have a babY every 11 months." Copra sanctum! I let them f with my mind, stayed abstinent about a week after meeting the fat cable guy with blue cloud burst eyes. #the cable guy always finds a way

This feed er is despicable! I would NEVER treat my feedee this way! Not all feeders are sociopaths; I love my guys!

SEVERE paucity of BHMS in my hometown; found a local feedee with a little meat on his bones (fwbs) and a BHM in Wisconsin who wants to move here and let me make him 700 lbs. Thank God for FF! I don't wish I had the unnatural thin fetish that is more common; I'm very grate ful to have normal sexuality.

Great perspective. Quality over Quantity. Technically I suppose we could try to ignore the fetish, but that won't make it go away. Better just to embrace and enjoy it. :-)

Mm, I feel this on so many levels. I've been attracted to fat and weight gain since I was a teen but have always been too embarrassed by it to tell my partner. There's always that awkward roadblock where they can sense there's something missing and I'm not telling them. I've also gone for thinner more athletic guys (ones I am 'should' be attracted to by societal standards$) to try and suppress my desire.

At this point I haven't been seeing anyone for a few months bc I'm tired of having a mediocre love life. I've accepted that feederism is what I'm into and I've just been trying to explore that for myself.

I totally feel you on the wanting to gain vs wanting to be healthy. I love the extra weight I've put on in the past few years but I also love to hike and ski. I've been trying to keep it balanced fitting in vegetables and pizza lol.

Ah, I could go on forever about my back and forth on this fetish but its nice to know I'm not the only one who feels this way.

What an amazingly refreshing and positive attitude! Wow!

And really, with this fetish you can get quality AND quantity, lol! Best to you and your lovely feedee man!

I am concerned about the health issues. Also when with a guy i am in love i dont even think about it. It is mostly when I play with myself or when an image reminds me of that. So probably i should just leave it. But I also want to say something about narrowing dating chances. It happens to everyone. Especially to those who want to be with someone overweight because they find them beautiful and yet dont dare because they are afraid "people would talk" . Flesh news: ppl talk anyway especially when they are themselves lonely and frustrated. You can be overweight and healthy although there is a limit you dont have to cross if you dont want to run any health-related risk. Then again it is also about what risks you want to run

Life ruined, no... or, at least, not yet.

Although I was always attracted to both very thin and unhealthily fat girls, my preference for a long time was on the chubby side: one who has curves, is definitely overweight, but not at a level where that would be the first thing most people would notice about her (not because I would care what others think of her, but this is how I could best describe the size in written form).

This has gradually increased, to a size which is definitely fat, round, the biggest size one can get without starting to get too many hurdles in everyday life.

And this has been for a long time, but then lately the prospects of a woman large enough that some things are no longer designed for her size, started getting very alluring, one who starts to have difficulties (manageable, but struggles nonetheless) at tasks thinner people don't even have to think about.

And just now, while I can still find some (but less and less) normal-sized women attractive, when I see a video of, or fantasize about (there aren't many, if at all, where I live) a woman whose thigh is as thick as an average person's hips, who waddles, struggling with each step, while her belly not just wobbles, but sways around, I find her perfect, or even imagine that I would like to see her gain a little more.

I hope it won't keep intensifying, because if it keeps up at this rate, in a few years a mountain-like immobile blob will be too small for my tastes. And I hope I will never ever get to that point.