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I think i’m turning gay?!

Shyfeedeeguy:
I think the traditional definition of sexuality is somewhat different for those who are turned on by fat (at least, for some.) Personally, I mostly identify as asexual panromantic with a preference for feminine presenting traits... which is a way of saying I’m not into sex but I do feel romantic attraction to others, and though I don’t have a preference for gender I do always find myself attracted to women or those who are more feminine than masculine. Even trying to define asexuality can be tricky though, since for some it means never being turned on by anything ever, and for others it can mean turned on by very selective things that aren’t associated with others (like gaining.)

Even without the mutual interest we all have here on FF, sexuality is a complex thing and can be challenging to define; trying to put such into little boxes like “straight” “gay” “bi” seems ridiculous in my opinion. Don’t get me wrong, I also struggled to understand my sexuality/romantic interests for a long time and it can be confusing. Do you actually need a label though? Many people need that label because they’ve little else to define them as unique human beings or because their community/sense of community is so closely tied to their label regarding sexuality (this is based on my observations, I could be wrong.)

I think I’m basically trying to say don’t worry about it too much, labels are dumb, and do whatever makes you happy.


Now that is a good post, which makes perfect sense.
Labels are bollox we are all individuals.
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I think i’m turning gay?!

My wife is my feeder. She is obsessed with making me fat. She’s somewhat dominant and I’m somewhat submissive. She’s added 75 pounds in a year. It’s all about sex to her, it turns her on to make me fat, and I’m very turned on to have gained so much weight.
She had always been the dominant figure in our relationship. She’s very slender and fit and fulfilling her desires of fat by fattening me up. I hope she never stops. And to be honest I can’t say no to her.
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I think i’m turning gay?!

Danny53:
My wife is my feeder. She is obsessed with making me fat. She’s somewhat dominant and I’m somewhat submissive. She’s added 75 pounds in a year. It’s all about sex to her, it turns her on to make me fat, and I’m very turned on to have gained so much weight.
She had always been the dominant figure in our relationship. She’s very slender and fit and fulfilling her desires of fat by fattening me up. I hope she never stops. And to be honest I can’t say no to her.


Struggling to see the connection between the thread topic and your post Danny.
The OP was wondering if he was bisexual.
But, I'm glad you and your wife are happy.
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I think i’m turning gay?!

Sorry. Got off topic there.
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I think i’m turning gay?!

So to the title of this forum
Nobody "turns gay" if you are not attracted to someone sexually then you are not sexually attracted and that doesn't change without some reason.
As a lesbian feedee I can tell you the reason you got so much encouragement is cause marginalized people such as LGBTQ+ (among others) know how being treated like crap feels and those who have dealt with it tend to not treat others that way. Its good that you got so much positive encouragement, but that same thing does exist in straight communities though its much, much harder to find.
5 years

I think i’m turning gay?!

I've noticed many people in our fetish eventually come to realize they are "chubbysexuals"- meaning its all about fat bodies but the same person generally has no interest in same sex if they're not fat enough. Just my observations over the past decades of being a fat lover.
feedher3000:
So for a long time I’ve wanted to fatten up a woman.i find it sexy. But then I changed and wanted a woman to fatten me instead. But I’ve got such negative reactions for regular sites or just ignored that I’ve really given up. Most people that message me want money of some sort. But then the other day I was board and heard about grommr. I have gotten more compliments, and encouragement in 24 hours than I have ever got from straight sights... I was amazed. I don’t know.. everyone is so nice there! I might just be bi!
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I think i’m turning gay?!

jgrande:
@shyfeedeeguy
@chubby1258

Okay first of all, OY. This is so problematic. You can't just invalidate people's sexual identity because they choose to put a label on it. Sure, not every one needs one but that doesn't negate the integrity of those labels for those who identify with them. The LGBTQ+ community has fought for decades just to have the right to use those labels and wear them proudly. While you may not see the use of them, they are still 100% valid. Sexuality is an integral part to identity because it's inherently not something you choose, it's simply who you are. Sexuality is a spectrum and while those labels may seem limiting to you, they allow people to trule accept themselves and their path in discovering where they fit on that spectrum.

hollowday:
No one cares. This is s fetish site. Get over yourself lol. Everyone is so wise and tough online. Pathetic.


Dude chill out and let people do their thing.
5 years

I think i’m turning gay?!

jgrande:
@shyfeedeeguy
@chubby1258

Okay first of all, OY. This is so problematic. You can't just invalidate people's sexual identity because they choose to put a label on it. Sure, not every one needs one but that doesn't negate the integrity of those labels for those who identify with them. The LGBTQ+ community has fought for decades just to have the right to use those labels and wear them proudly. While you may not see the use of them, they are still 100% valid. Sexuality is an integral part to identity because it's inherently not something you choose, it's simply who you are. Sexuality is a spectrum and while those labels may seem limiting to you, they allow people to trule accept themselves and their path in discovering where they fit on that spectrum.

👏👏 This needed to be said
5 years

I think i’m turning gay?!

Truth is, some of us have a ego and we go where we can find "attention" for things that we like; a part of wants to always go where we are accepted. I have always seen myself as a fat man and got plenty of attention before I became obese years ago. I had to own that I put myself into a position in which in some Westernized countries, fat is seen as obscene but in my community it was different. I met an older female who showed me that in places like Louisiana and Texas here in the states; in my community it was seen that a female is taking care of her man if his guts hangs. Some of us don't get the attention we want from the opposite sex so we try to get in where we fit in. For me, I like women and I will be single and own it until I find a female who appreciates my flabbiness....
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