Either two people are compatible or they're not.
Some people thrive on pain, others on comfort, others on being left alone.
If a partner's behavior is abhorrent, and they refuse to accommodate your preferences, leave.
If you can't leave due to fear, involve the authorities. A situation this bad will only get worse.
There are billions of people in this world. It's insane to waste one's life in a bad relationship.
3 years