General

Remember canuck gender and sexuality are two different things.

absolutely! and that's why i mention them separately. i think acceptance of sexuality is way ahead in relation to gender and gender identification, but i have no hard data to support that. that's just based on my feeling as a pansexual person, as compared to what emily describes as a trans woman.

I know that you know that I just said it again because most people don't understand that and have a hard time with that fact and consider them the same.

toronto, where we live, has quite an active lgbtq community (our pride parade is one of the largest in the world, i believe, as an example), and we have found a few local groups online (though facebook, which is kind of... ugh...), which also have in-person meet-ups (when there aren't pandemics, lol), which has been great. met some very helpful, kind, and positive people and couples there.

one of the surprises - and i don't know why i expected anything different, tbh - was that even within this tiny sub-community, people get judgemental about one another. it's not different than the feedist community, or any other, i suppose, so i don't know why it bugs me. still, to have one trans person judge another's decisions on how they feel they need to transition, or to have or nothave a particular surgery really surprised me (and tbh, angered me) .

still, must not let the rotten apples ruin it for everyone else, right?

always remember that you can choose to be kind.