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All good points. It really is what it is with FF I think, like you said, if you’re worried about how much traction or views you’re getting, you’re probably here for the wrong reasons

I'm not insecure about my big fat belly. I love the opportunity to show it off here. I would like more comments though. Bur not required. Just the chance to show off my belly is good enough

Yes I would say.

The point. Atleast to me is to be admired and accepted. And I don't mind if guys or gals comment.

I only get a few likes and comments. That doesn’t discourage me from uploading pictures though! I just don’t have too much time to take pictures lately. I feel that there are more people who comment on pics on the subreddit r/gainers. So perhaps there’s more people on Reddit who probably don’t visit this site or aren’t even aware of it.

There are so few women that likes fat men, they are minority. So chances finding them are rare.

Real-deal FFAs (of different sizes) definitely exist - I've met a number over the years without specifically asking them about preferences. And several were on the lookout for a BHM.

I like Imchet's post in this thread. He has a good approach with respect to meeting folks.

Now that things are opening up in the Covid world, expect more size-positive events. I've never had a bad time at one, and they are a great place to meet people. Is attending such an event a possibility? I would recommend one for a plus-sized individual (or admirer of such individuals) who desires an upgrade to their social life.

Maybe but I think it's due to society. Men are more encouraged to express their desires, to comment outloud on women's bodies...

I love commenting on fat men's bodies too (and here is one of the only safe places to do so) but many women are too shy I think... Some repress their desires. Too bad.
And you know we can't comment everywhere either. Viewing pics is limited now when you don't pay...

Let me put it this way: most men I've veen with, be family or friends are EXTREMELY reserved about their own feelings. Even if they are the outgoing, extrovert type, when it comes down to talk about what they think, they clam up.

This is due to a number of reasons: Machism is also a thing among guys, where we can't show ourselves to be fragile, but also society is slowly changing at least, but some of these guys can't follow trough, especially given their upbringing or relation swith others. Everyone around me made sure that I wasn't "a man" and constantly telling me those things, not having a manly body, personality, attittude, physique, etc.

While I learned that I don't need to be "a man", those things even my parents told me on and one are always ingrained.

And then comes the issue of insecurity on this topic.

See, there's always this little voice in my head that complains about being chubby, despite liking it. But also there's a weird thing going on where most people here or in similar spaces say I'm either too skinny or too fat, and that just makes me confused and unsure of what I want to do.
Because there's this unbalance that I would rather just keep to myself until I get to really kno the person I'm talking with, then I no longer feel insecure towards that person in particular.

Now there are some very bold guys out there, don't get me wrong, and I do envy them. So I'm sure that you mostly had bad luck meeting them.

Insecurity, rejection, getting friend zoned.