Munchies:
Liking bigger people doesn't mean you have a fetish. There are a lot of people who prefer or like thick, chubby, or even fat people without it being a kink or fetish to them. Telling your bf that you like him with a bit of padding isn't the same thing as telling him you have a fetish.
For example, a lot of people where I live like bigger people. No one thinks anything of it. It's no stranger that liking tall men or women with red hair.
Amazingem:
THIS is so important. It is normal for people to have a preferred "type." I have always preferred heavier, fatter men - I never, ever considered it a fetish. I dated guys with average builds, too. But that didn't change my preference.
Telling him you like his soft body, and even that you don't have any issues with it getting softer shouldn't be a sensitive topic for you and him. It's just telling him you are attracted to him as he is!
Angy523:
I think you're right. But I am afraid that if I say I like his soft body, it could make him want to lose weight again because of the society standards (I mean, idk if he will pay attention to the fact that I like him or he will just realise that I consider his body soft...which btw, for me isn't soft enough yet😋). I don't know if it makes sense, but I still prefer to just tell him I like his body without mentioning he has a soft body. I actually tell him he's not fat at all when he says that. I don't know if I can make him realise how good he looks with a belly so I just try to make him forget that he has one. I just want to make him feel comfortable about his body and to make him enjoy eating how much he wants without worrying about gaining some weight.
If you want to make any relationship work, you need to have clear and effective communication. Sure, you're telling your boyfriend he isn't fat, but that isn't the same thing as assuring him you like the way he looks.
Telling him he isn't fat will only work for so long. At some point, depending on his comfort level and how big he gets, that won't work anymore. All you are doing is kicking the proverbial can down the road.
It make be true that your boyfriend isn't fat. He might just be less toned. But all that tells him is you aren't worried about his body being defined. It doesn't tell him that you'd be okay - let alone happy - if he got fat. At best, it tells him you'd tolerate his flab. At worse, it tells him you find him attractive so long as he isn't properly fat.
It would be better to assure your boyfriend that you'd love him and find him attractive at any size. At the end of the day, every man wants to feel safe, secure and loved. Doesn't matter how macho he is. He's still a person with feelings at the end of the day.
