Ex Jock:
OP, you could also consider working out and lifting too. I’m 6’1 and cannot even imagine what 130lbs would be like, and I used to be pretty scrawny. But working out and building some muscle is a) one of the biggest things that helped my confidence and insecurities when I was skinny, and
allow him continue to gain and enjoy food while filling putting on some muscle in addition to some fat. If he feels insecure because he’s “skinny-fat,” maybe get a little stronger and I bet he fills out some more, gets a little thicker and gains some confidence.
However like others have said, he has to agree to it, and if he wants to be done gaining altogether than that might just be his choice.
OP, you could also consider working out and lifting too. I’m 6’1 and cannot even imagine what 130lbs would be like, and I used to be pretty scrawny. But working out and building some muscle is a) one of the biggest things that helped my confidence and insecurities when I was skinny, and
allow him continue to gain and enjoy food while filling putting on some muscle in addition to some fat. If he feels insecure because he’s “skinny-fat,” maybe get a little stronger and I bet he fills out some more, gets a little thicker and gains some confidence. However like others have said, he has to agree to it, and if he wants to be done gaining altogether than that might just be his choice.
That's a good idea, and something I hadn't thought of, so thank you! I'll definitely bring it up with him as a potential long-term compromise, when I get the chance to talk with him more, and see how he feels.
Yeah, he was very skinny and that was sort of his baseline for many years, so he started off without much muscle at all. He's never been one for the gym so idk how he'd feel, but a few months ago he started working a job that's fairly physical and involves a good bit of lifting, and he's mentioned a few times that he's been gaining strength for the first time in his life. It kinda seemed like he felt good about that, so I'll see what he thinks.
But yeah, ofc I have to accept what he's comfortable with, if it's a hard no to anything, then I'll just have to work from there. Even though I've always seen myself as just a feeder, I could always consider gaining at some point in the future, as a way to indulge that part of myself.
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