Munchies:
I am a feeder and FA. My partner and I are into extreme feeding and weight gain. However, we are not into immobility or health issues. So I told him from the jump that whenever he decided to lose weight, I'd support him 100%.
That time came late last year. He came to me and asked how I'd feel if he lost some weight. He was terrified that I'd lose my attraction to him or that I'd leave him.
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Munchies:
I get why he was scared. There are unfortunately a lot of feeders that leave their feedees once they decide to lose weight and get healthy. Sadly, this kink breeds a lot of shallowness and selfishness even when both parties don't mean to be.
However, when my partner said he wanted to gain weight, it wasn't a big deal for me. I went into things knowing that one day he'd want to lose the weight. So I'd decided that I would find other reasons to be attracted to him.
I also made an effort to enjoy sex with him outside of feedism even when he was actively gaining. We'd indulge our other kinks or just focus on enjoying each other.
There are also ways to enjoy feedism without gaining weight. I stuff him occasionally or fantasize with him about being 700 lbs.
My partner is still losing weight. He wants to get in shape and maybe even get muscular. He's happy with his choices, and I'm still extremely attracted to him. Yes, our dynamic has changed but that means we get to rediscover ourselves. I'm excited to see what he is going to achieve.
I am a feeder and FA. My partner and I are into extreme feeding and weight gain. However, we are not into immobility or health issues. So I told him from the jump that whenever he decided to lose weight, I'd support him 100%.
That time came late last year. He came to me and asked how I'd feel if he lost some weight. He was terrified that I'd lose my attraction to him or that I'd leave him.
Conti
Munchies:
I get why he was scared. There are unfortunately a lot of feeders that leave their feedees once they decide to lose weight and get healthy. Sadly, this kink breeds a lot of shallowness and selfishness even when both parties don't mean to be.
However, when my partner said he wanted to gain weight, it wasn't a big deal for me. I went into things knowing that one day he'd want to lose the weight. So I'd decided that I would find other reasons to be attracted to him.
I also made an effort to enjoy sex with him outside of feedism even when he was actively gaining. We'd indulge our other kinks or just focus on enjoying each other.
There are also ways to enjoy feedism without gaining weight. I stuff him occasionally or fantasize with him about being 700 lbs.
My partner is still losing weight. He wants to get in shape and maybe even get muscular. He's happy with his choices, and I'm still extremely attracted to him. Yes, our dynamic has changed but that means we get to rediscover ourselves. I'm excited to see what he is going to achieve.
I appreciate you sharing. I was definitely attracted to him before, and I'm capable of finding many body types attractive even if I have preferences. I think I just went a little crazy when he said he'd be okay being a little bigger, and when he actually started to put on weight, I sort of lost sight of the frame of mind I had previously where I may have fantasized about him gaining sometimes but didn't feel it was that important if I didn't get to experience that in reality. In retrospect, trying to focus more on the other things I've always found attractive about him as an "insurance" would have been smart. I always knew, anyways, that he had limits on how big he'd ideally be and that if he got to be what he considered too big, he'd lose weight, and I accepted that. We just both had thought that that point was much farther away from where it apparently is.
But anyways, I will try to take your advice to heart and try to refocus myself less on the kink aspects of my attraction if I can. I do love him very much and want him to be happy, and though I've yet to have a longer conversation with him it seems like hopefully he's still willing to engage in fantasy talk and such.
1 year
allow him continue to gain and enjoy food while filling putting on some muscle in addition to some fat. If he feels insecure because he’s “skinny-fat,” maybe get a little stronger and I bet he fills out some more, gets a little thicker and gains some confidence. 