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Worst thing said to you at a doctors office

Morbidly A Beast:
I’ve gotten extremely lucky from the sounds of it the most I got was concern for my weight but I was otherwise healthy in all my tests. Probably helps that I remain very active like more than you’d expect for someone my weight for my job, and I have only been to the doctor a handful of times had I been seeing that doctor since I was young I’m sure I would have gotten a earful.

It’s sucks that there’s doctors perfectly willing to put their patients at risk just because of their bias.


Yeah, it's everywhere. Doctors discriminate based on age, race, gender, sexuality, religion, mental health, size, and the list goes on. This is why you need to know the basics. Sometimes, the only way you can get the care you need is by being your own advocate.
1 year

Worst thing said to you at a doctors office

Anytime I get a new doctor(including specialists) I tell them straight up front.My weight is MY business.I'm here to see you for a specific reason & it has little or nothing to do with my weight.Look for other answers!
1 year

Worst thing said to you at a doctors office

LuvsChub04:
that my blood was like pancake batter due to high cholesterol n my triglycerides were way to high...yet my family is way worse then a doc

Morbidly A Beast:
Just keep it mind that some people are genetically predisposed to stuff like diabetes, high blood pressure, and bad cholesterol and weight gain can just act as a catalyst rather than the culprit.

ForeverFFA:
Very true, and while specific dietary choices play a role, I think each individual person needs to evaluate their unique risks when it comes to gaining. Some people simply are healthier at higher weights than others (and vice versa). Maybe this sounds too preachy, but I really hope that intentional weight gain is not a decision that anyone is taking lightly. At the same time, it makes me angry to hear how dehumanizing doctors can be about this stuff.

Munchies:
It's awful. Few things make me quite as mad as medical bigotry. A fatphobic doctor is often a lazy doctor. Any ailment their patient as is usually blamed on their fatness. This often leads to them overlooking other issues their patient might have.

I remember last winter, my partner had a severe headache. Lasted for several days. His doctor blamed his weight as he was pushing 500 lbs at the time.

Both my partner and I knew that was a load of crap, so he got a second opinion. Turns out that he needed a root canal.

didn't his tooth hurt tho?
1 year

Worst thing said to you at a doctors office



ForeverFFA:
Very true, and while specific dietary choices play a role, I think each individual person needs to evaluate their unique risks when it comes to gaining. Some people simply are healthier at higher weights than others (and vice versa). Maybe this sounds too preachy, but I really hope that intentional weight gain is not a decision that anyone is taking lightly. At the same time, it makes me angry to hear how dehumanizing doctors can be about this stuff.

Munchies:
It's awful. Few things make me quite as mad as medical bigotry. A fatphobic doctor is often a lazy doctor. Any ailment their patient as is usually blamed on their fatness. This often leads to them overlooking other issues their patient might have.

I remember last winter, my partner had a severe headache. Lasted for several days. His doctor blamed his weight as he was pushing 500 lbs at the time.

Both my partner and I knew that was a load of crap, so he got a second opinion. Turns out that he needed a root canal.

LuvsChub04:
didn't his tooth hurt tho?


My partner was already dealing with a headache due to another health reason. The tooth thing was just more pain on top of pain. Plus severe enough tooth pain causes headaches.
1 year

Worst thing said to you at a doctors office

So I saw this, and the most recent experience at the doctor's office resurfaced. My boyfriend and I usually go see our doctor together, but in this occasion, our medical provider was out of office due to a family grievance. So unbeknownst to us, we would see a different doctor in their stead.

To give some context before I go on, my boyfriend and I are 32 and autistic, while he also has generalized anxiety disorder. He also has his RN license but has been having issues getting a job. On top of that, he has been prescribed specific pain meds for his back, legs and feet since he was 14. As for me, being the bigger guy, I've been labeled as a diabetic (type 2) for about a year.

To make the story TLDR; the new FNP we saw said the following to my boyfriend:

"You're not supposed to take this pain medication, it's for cancer patients only."

"There's no reason for you to take this medication unless you're doing it for "funsies""

(This is regarding to the medication he was prescribed to help with his pain since he was 14)

"You need to stop going back to what I just said and focus what I'm saying now. You're starting to get on my nerves."

(My boyfriend was having a massive panic attack in front of the new FNP as they basically said they were gonna change/remove the medicine that helps him function)

"It doesn't matter if you got your RN license, you're still a nurse graduate."

(When he told them that he was also a RN (Registered Nurse))

And when it got too intense for him to even talk, the FNP told him to leave, leaving him in the dark in terms of his medication.

--- --- ---

As for me, what they did was not in the doctors office but when I got my prescriptions.

On the day we pick up our meds, the pharmacist was even concerned and hesitant to give me the new medication the FNP prescribed me, because it was for people that had a blood sugar count over 500/600+. Hearing those numbers scared me, because the highest my blood sugar has ever gotten was 175, but NEVER has it gotten to those numbers.

Both the pharmacist and my boyfriend agreed that I shouldn't take this medication, because the excess insulin the FNP was expecting me to take ON TOP of the other diabetic meds I already take (which is really only Metformin, and Baselgar should my blood sugar get too high) would probably kill me.

So this FNP basically assumed I was a type 1 diabetic when I'm type 2.

Suffice to say, we both felt violated by this FNP's actions and words. Plus they were a fill in for our normal provider, there was no need for them to make such drastic changes. I'm just hoping when we see our regular provider on our next appointment that they will fix what was changed.
1 year

Worst thing said to you at a doctors office

Maikode:
So I saw this, and the most recent experience at the doctor's office resurfaced. My boyfriend and I usually go see our doctor together, but in this occasion, our medical provider was out of office due to a family grievance. So unbeknownst to us, we would see a different doctor in their stead.

To give some context before I go on, my boyfriend and I are 32 and autistic, while he also has generalized anxiety disorder. He also has his RN license but has been having issues getting a job. On top of that, he has been prescribed specific pain meds for his back, legs and feet since he was 14. As for me, being the bigger guy, I've been labeled as a diabetic (type 2) for about a year.

To make the story TLDR; the new FNP we saw said the following to my boyfriend:

"You're not supposed to take this pain medication, it's for cancer patients only."

"There's no reason for you to take this medication unless you're doing it for "funsies""

(This is regarding to the medication he was prescribed to help with his pain since he was 14)

"You need to stop going back to what I just said and focus what I'm saying now. You're starting to get on my nerves."

(My boyfriend was having a massive panic attack in front of the new FNP as they basically said they were gonna change/remove the medicine that helps him function)

"It doesn't matter if you got your RN license, you're still a nurse graduate."

(When he told them that he was also a RN (Registered Nurse))

And when it got too intense for him to even talk, the FNP told him to leave, leaving him in the dark in terms of his medication.

--- --- ---

As for me, what they did was not in the doctors office but when I got my prescriptions.

On the day we pick up our meds, the pharmacist was even concerned and hesitant to give me the new medication the FNP prescribed me, because it was for people that had a blood sugar count over 500/600+. Hearing those numbers scared me, because the highest my blood sugar has ever gotten was 175, but NEVER has it gotten to those numbers.

Both the pharmacist and my boyfriend agreed that I shouldn't take this medication, because the excess insulin the FNP was expecting me to take ON TOP of the other diabetic meds I already take (which is really only Metformin, and Baselgar should my blood sugar get too high) would probably kill me.

So this FNP basically assumed I was a type 1 diabetic when I'm type 2.

Suffice to say, we both felt violated by this FNP's actions and words. Plus they were a fill in for our normal provider, there was no need for them to make such drastic changes. I'm just hoping when we see our regular provider on our next appointment that they will fix what was changed.


Former health insurance rep here. You need to file a complaint with the office and your insurance if you have it.

Don't let by-gones be by-gones. People like this person kill people. And even if nothing really comes of it, there will be a paper trail. And that paper trail can end up saving someone else's life.
1 year

Worst thing said to you at a doctors office

One time my doctor said that I should lose weight because he don't like fat
1 year

Worst thing said to you at a doctors office

Maikode:
So I saw this, and the most recent experience at the doctor's office resurfaced. My boyfriend and I usually go see our doctor together, but in this occasion, our medical provider was out of office due to a family grievance. So unbeknownst to us, we would see a different doctor in their stead.

To give some context before I go on, my boyfriend and I are 32 and autistic, while he also has generalized anxiety disorder. He also has his RN license but has been having issues getting a job. On top of that, he has been prescribed specific pain meds for his back, legs and feet since he was 14. As for me, being the bigger guy, I've been labeled as a diabetic (type 2) for about a year.

To make the story TLDR; the new FNP we saw said the following to my boyfriend:

"You're not supposed to take this pain medication, it's for cancer patients only."

"There's no reason for you to take this medication unless you're doing it for "funsies""

(This is regarding to the medication he was prescribed to help with his pain since he was 14)

"You need to stop going back to what I just said and focus what I'm saying now. You're starting to get on my nerves."

(My boyfriend was having a massive panic attack in front of the new FNP as they basically said they were gonna change/remove the medicine that helps him function)

"It doesn't matter if you got your RN license, you're still a nurse graduate."

(When he told them that he was also a RN (Registered Nurse))

And when it got too intense for him to even talk, the FNP told him to leave, leaving him in the dark in terms of his medication.

--- --- ---

As for me, what they did was not in the doctors office but when I got my prescriptions.

On the day we pick up our meds, the pharmacist was even concerned and hesitant to give me the new medication the FNP prescribed me, because it was for people that had a blood sugar count over 500/600+. Hearing those numbers scared me, because the highest my blood sugar has ever gotten was 175, but NEVER has it gotten to those numbers.

Both the pharmacist and my boyfriend agreed that I shouldn't take this medication, because the excess insulin the FNP was expecting me to take ON TOP of the other diabetic meds I already take (which is really only Metformin, and Baselgar should my blood sugar get too high) would probably kill me.

So this FNP basically assumed I was a type 1 diabetic when I'm type 2.

Suffice to say, we both felt violated by this FNP's actions and words. Plus they were a fill in for our normal provider, there was no need for them to make such drastic changes. I'm just hoping when we see our regular provider on our next appointment that they will fix what was changed.

Munchies:
Former health insurance rep here. You need to file a complaint with the office and your insurance if you have it.

Don't let by-gones be by-gones. People like this person kill people. And even if nothing really comes of it, there will be a paper trail. And that paper trail can end up saving someone else's life.

How they treated someone with Autism is just wrong. File a major complaint, what that doc did is messed up dude.
1 year

Worst thing said to you at a doctors office

I don't have a personal experience since I've always avoided Doctors offices even before I was fat but I am even more reluctant to go nowadays unless I absolutely need to. I do know my blood pressure is always good from fairly frequent checks, outside doc office, and nothing in blood work last few times I have been in for something.

My roommates sister was a chubby teen, NOT FAT just pudgy maybe pushing 200 but tall and barely beyond overweight catagory let alone clinically obese. Spent over a year, almost two visiting various doctors for frequent headaches and random minor illness and trying to figure out why she was so tired and lethargic all the time. They all kept blaming her weight and telling her she will feel better if she just loses 20 to 30 pounds. Turns out she had Leukemia. By the time she was diagnosed it was too late for bone marrow or any life prolonging treatments. That poor girls mother... Watched her waste away those last few months.

My grandpa was sent in to hospital for an easy wound debridement on his calf, size of dime then nickel. Spent 2 hours sitting in ER, given a Tylenol and shipped back to nursing home within 4 hours of leaving. Without any actual treatment given. So what if his last stroke meant he was wheelchair bound, that leg was painful for him and the RN who sent him in was PISSED. I also work in senior care, this stuff happens all the time to people.

The worst part is that medical bias and just plain lazy practices have put dozens of people I know personally at serious risk. At least 7 of those people are dead now. Seriously, how can they miss stage 3 cancer in an elderly woman whom has been getting ultrasounds and other tests done like clockwork every 8 to 12 weeks as part of her care plan? For past several years! More recently requested additional tests on her blood work due to stomach issues, Dr refused at that time, turns out to be cancer months later, stage 4... She died May this year.

Advocate for yourselves and your loved ones. Never trust medical professionals have your best interests at heart let alone hold true to the Hippocratic oath they took. I know of a handful of younger people with similar experiences, a few of them gone to soon, but I've ranted enough here.
1 year

Worst thing said to you at a doctors office

A few years ago, I lost about 170 pounds because a doctor convinced me I'd feel better and have a better quality of life if I did. Since then, I've regained it all and then some, but I think the reason I was willing to lose in the first place was, the doctor wasn't abrasive about it.

When I was a fat teenager though, the doctor literally referred to my obesity as 'blubber'. I rebelled and got even fatter. This wasn't 50 years ago, either. It was about 15 years ago, at a time when a medical professional should have known better and been aware of the psychological damage a comment like that can inflict on a 14-year old girl. Bonus: the doctor was fat too, but he referred to himself as "just a big guy".
1 year
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