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Munchies   United States
Joined 3 years
PhoenixChimera:
I find the issue to be the same, regardless of who or where or how far. It is the same thing that gets me beaten in the streets and abused by NHS.
Some people are worthy of a life and others are judged to be not worthy.
The majority is law.


Not going to pretend I know what your exact situation is like since I'm cis. However, I am a dark-skinned black woman living in KKK country. I've been attacked and assaulted for both my race and my gender. At some point, you kinda get to a place where you have no more fucks to give and do what you want.

It's also really good to get your mind off of your own problems and focus outwards. Look into volunteering. Find some organizations geared towards LGBTQIA+ spaces. You can make some friends, mentor some people, and maybe event find some help with your current HRT situation. Couldn't hurt to try.
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PhoenixChimera   United Kingdom
Joined 15 years
What I don’t get is why things are going backwards so fast.
I have never known anyone like myself, we didn’t even have gays where I came from.
Evidently, either I am wrong or all of society. The majority is law.
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MarshmallowMinotaur   United States
Joined 8 years
Ok, I’m sure this isn’t going to be popular but it’s just my opinion since the door was opened …

I’m gay but I mention it only when it’s relevant to the conversation. I’m not a transphobe or any kind of ‘phobe, being a member of a group against which there is still a lot of prejudice and I dare say hatred.

However, though having said I’m gay it’s not my primary attribute. It doesn’t define me. If someone is gay or trans or asexual or whatever orientation or attributes it seems to me that they put that first and foremost.

To be blunt, it’s always an announcement and almost spoiling for an argument. If someone begins a conversation I’m interested in I respond. I really don’t care which letter of LGBTQAP+ they happen to be.

If people don’t respond it’s possibly and probably because they’re not interested in the subject. I think it’s a disservice and insult to people to assume they don’t engage because the original poster is LGBTQAP+ or whatever.

I’m sorry if that’s harsh it’s not my intent but too many people in the LGBTQAP+ group look fir ‘phobes under every rock.
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PhoenixChimera   United Kingdom
Joined 15 years
MarshmallowMinotaur:
Ok, I’m sure this isn’t going to be popular but it’s just my opinion since the door was opened …

I’m gay but I mention it only when it’s relevant to the conversation. I’m not a transphobe or any kind of ‘phobe, being a member of a group against which there is still a lot of prejudice and I dare say hatred.

However, though having said I’m gay it’s not my primary attribute. It doesn’t define me. If someone is gay or trans or asexual or whatever orientation or attributes it seems to me that they put that first and foremost.

To be blunt, it’s always an announcement and almost spoiling for an argument. If someone begins a conversation I’m interested in I respond. I really don’t care which letter of LGBTQAP+ they happen to be.

If people don’t respond it’s possibly and probably because they’re not interested in the subject. I think it’s a disservice and insult to people to assume they don’t engage because the original poster is LGBTQAP+ or whatever.

I’m sorry if that’s harsh it’s not my intent but too many people in the LGBTQAP+ group look fir ‘phobes under every rock.


It is the common factor of every piece of abuse I get-I almost wish they’d choose another attribute to take up arms against, for some variety.
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MarshmallowMinotaur   United States
Joined 8 years
MarshmallowMinotaur:
Ok, I’m sure this isn’t going to be popular but it’s just my opinion since the door was opened …

I’m gay but I mention it only when it’s relevant to the conversation. I’m not a transphobe or any kind of ‘phobe, being a member of a group against which there is still a lot of prejudice and I dare say hatred.

However, though having said I’m gay it’s not my primary attribute. It doesn’t define me. If someone is gay or trans or asexual or whatever orientation or attributes it seems to me that they put that first and foremost.

To be blunt, it’s always an announcement and almost spoiling for an argument. If someone begins a conversation I’m interested in I respond. I really don’t care which letter of LGBTQAP+ they happen to be.

If people don’t respond it’s possibly and probably because they’re not interested in the subject. I think it’s a disservice and insult to people to assume they don’t engage because the original poster is LGBTQAP+ or whatever.

I’m sorry if that’s harsh it’s not my intent but too many people in the LGBTQAP+ group look fir ‘phobes under every rock.

PhoenixChimera:
It is the common factor of every piece of abuse I get-I almost wish they’d choose another attribute to take up arms against, for some variety.


My question is do you make being trans the first thing you mention whether it is pertinent to the subject? To be blunt, do you announce it, are you “in your face” about it? When I first came out gay I made sure to tell everyone. At one point my sister told me in a less-than-tactful way “tone it down, it’s like you’re looking for a fight, no one cares that you’re gay”.

I moderate at very large and active religion and politics forum. We have a number of trans people whom everyone interacts with like they do with anyone else. So my other question is, actually it’s a two part:

1. Do people target you because you’re trans and how do they know?
2. Do people simply not engage with you? Maybe it’s nothing more than people having nothing to say.

I’m not trying to argue or be a doosh, I’m just asking as an “outsider” and disinterested third party.
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Munchies   United States
Joined 3 years
PhoenixChimera:
What I don’t get is why things are going backwards so fast.
I have never known anyone like myself, we didn’t even have gays where I came from.
Evidently, either I am wrong or all of society. The majority is law.


Okay, so you have lost me, love.

Your profile says you are in Leeds, England. Idk if you are there or near there, but it seems that there is a thriving gay community:

visitleeds.co.uk/lgbtq/

Do you get out much? What are you doing to find and build a friend group?
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Letters And Numbers   United States
Joined 2 years
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I deleted some posts with unhelpful arguing and triggering talk. Please stay on topic going forward. If you have trouble interacting with other users without fighting with them, I recommend blocking them.

PhoenixChimera, I’m going to be announcing an event in the story writers forum pretty soon — probably today — so if you’re interested, keep an eye down on that end of the forum list. When they’re active, they’re a good chance to meet new people and interact with story writers, and write something yourself if you’re interested (but readers are always welcome). Open invite to everyone who likes weight gain fic! Should be fun.
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PhoenixChimera   United Kingdom
Joined 15 years
PhoenixChimera:
What I don’t get is why things are going backwards so fast.
I have never known anyone like myself, we didn’t even have gays where I came from.
Evidently, either I am wrong or all of society. The majority is law.

Munchies:
Okay, so you have lost me, love.

Your profile says you are in Leeds, England. Idk if you are there or near there, but it seems that there is a thriving gay community:

visitleeds.co.uk/lgbtq/

Do you get out much? What are you doing to find and build a friend group?


Attacked 6 times, stopped going out.
That was 2 years ago.
As for the point about first thing said being trans-that is usually how people start, something like “you’re a tr***y” instead hello. Not much you can do when put into that position-say no and lying and say yes and get that nonsense.
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Munchies   United States
Joined 3 years
PhoenixChimera:
What I don’t get is why things are going backwards so fast.
I have never known anyone like myself, we didn’t even have gays where I came from.
Evidently, either I am wrong or all of society. The majority is law.

Munchies:
Okay, so you have lost me, love.

Your profile says you are in Leeds, England. Idk if you are there or near there, but it seems that there is a thriving gay community:

visitleeds.co.uk/lgbtq/

Do you get out much? What are you doing to find and build a friend group?

PhoenixChimera:
Attacked 6 times, stopped going out.
That was 2 years ago.
As for the point about first thing said being trans-that is usually how people start, something like “you’re a tr***y” instead hello. Not much you can do when put into that position-say no and lying and say yes and get that nonsense.


Understandible. Are you seeking out trans-friendly spaces online? Like spaces specifically for trans people?
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