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Senpai Hentai The Hentai Lord   United States
Joined 4 years
Exactly it's a mutual thing it's not just one way just because one person finds it sexually attractive for somebody to be immobile doesn't mean your other party wants to do that they said they would gain but their limit was probably like three or four hundred it's always good to have boundaries the way you worded that was practically perfect
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JohnT   United Kingdom
Joined 1 year
I found my girl 10 years ago when she was a hefty 230 pounder and never heard of feedism before. I never pressured her, just showed her the sexual side of eating and gaining. Four years into the relationship and she still wondered if she were a gainer so we had an open discussion and i confessed i was a feeder and she was most likely a feedee. She is over 550 lbs now and seems unstoppable. She loves the idea of sacrificing her mobility to be that massive. You might need to help a lady realize she is a feedee.
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Morbidly A Beast   United States
Joined 3 years
If you can’t find a feedee just find a fat person you like to spend time with and date them, so many “feeders” want the process and not fat people, it’s a similar thing with people who complain about sexual promiscuity while at the same time will have promiscuous sex (not that sex is a bad thing, rather people who complain)

There’s a lot of fat people, men and women who deserve and should get love but are outshined by thins who gain 10-15 lbs
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Munchies   United States
Joined 4 years
Morbidly A Beast:
If you can’t find a feedee just find a fat person you like to spend time with and date them, so many “feeders” want the process and not fat people, it’s a similar thing with people who complain about sexual promiscuity while at the same time will have promiscuous sex (not that sex is a bad thing, rather people who complain)

There’s a lot of fat people, men and women who deserve and should get love but are outshined by thins who gain 10-15 lbs


Is that the case? In my experience, most feeders want someone who is at least chubby.
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Morbidly A Beast   United States
Joined 3 years
Morbidly A Beast:
If you can’t find a feedee just find a fat person you like to spend time with and date them, so many “feeders” want the process and not fat people, it’s a similar thing with people who complain about sexual promiscuity while at the same time will have promiscuous sex (not that sex is a bad thing, rather people who complain)

There’s a lot of fat people, men and women who deserve and should get love but are outshined by thins who gain 10-15 lbs

Munchies:
Is that the case? In my experience, most feeders want someone who is at least chubby.


Just seems that way given how the most popular models are some gorgeous women who gain a few lbs. and the general idea about it being “hard to find a feedee”

I know from interactions most female feeders want their men big but most of the time men want to make a fatty like it’s build a bear or something
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AskDrFeeder   United States
Joined 16 years
Munchies:
I mean, becoming financially stable is important, but that's not nearly enough. [/quote]

Never said it was. And I agree that people often place too much importance to money.

My point is that in the absence of a feedee or feedee candidate, one thing a feeder can do is get their financial house in order, to facilitate a feedist relationship should one come along.

Money can't buy happiness, but poverty can't buy anything.
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Munchies   United States
Joined 4 years
Morbidly A Beast:
If you can’t find a feedee just find a fat person you like to spend time with and date them, so many “feeders” want the process and not fat people, it’s a similar thing with people who complain about sexual promiscuity while at the same time will have promiscuous sex (not that sex is a bad thing, rather people who complain)

There’s a lot of fat people, men and women who deserve and should get love but are outshined by thins who gain 10-15 lbs

Munchies:
Is that the case? In my experience, most feeders want someone who is at least chubby.

Morbidly A Beast:
Just seems that way given how the most popular models are some gorgeous women who gain a few lbs. and the general idea about it being “hard to find a feedee”

I know from interactions most female feeders want their men big but most of the time men want to make a fatty like it’s build a bear or something


I do love me a big man.

However, that's not why it's so hard for a lot of male feeders to find a female feedee. In fact, female feedees tell people why it's hard for them to find someone all the time.

It's because so many of them suck as people. I'm not even a feedee and I regularly encounter male feeders who clearly are typing with their left hand, are pushy, mean, objectifying, or have serial killer vibes. It's genuinely terrifying sometimes.

So if you are a genuinely good person, understand it's going to be hard no matter what you do. There are so many guarded, jaded female feedees out there who will keep you at arm's length for a while for safety reasons alone.
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Morbidly A Beast   United States
Joined 3 years
Morbidly A Beast:
If you can’t find a feedee just find a fat person you like to spend time with and date them, so many “feeders” want the process and not fat people, it’s a similar thing with people who complain about sexual promiscuity while at the same time will have promiscuous sex (not that sex is a bad thing, rather people who complain)

There’s a lot of fat people, men and women who deserve and should get love but are outshined by thins who gain 10-15 lbs

Munchies:
Is that the case? In my experience, most feeders want someone who is at least chubby.

Morbidly A Beast:
Just seems that way given how the most popular models are some gorgeous women who gain a few lbs. and the general idea about it being “hard to find a feedee”

I know from interactions most female feeders want their men big but most of the time men want to make a fatty like it’s build a bear or something

Munchies:
I do love me a big man.

However, that's not why it's so hard for a lot of male feeders to find a female feedee. In fact, female feedees tell people why it's hard for them to find someone all the time.

It's because so many of them suck as people. I'm not even a feedee and I regularly encounter male feeders who clearly are typing with their left hand, are pushy, mean, objectifying, or have serial killer vibes. It's genuinely terrifying sometimes.

So if you are a genuinely good person, understand it's going to be hard no matter what you do. There are so many guarded, jaded female feedees out there who will keep you at arm's length for a while for safety reasons alone.


I hadn’t even considered that angle and it’s true and I recognize it now that you mention it, it’s hard for women just in general online let alone ones that are explicitly sexual or talk about sexual topics

Ngl I had to pause and think about the left hand thing I was like oh of course serial jerkers, had to put that one in a context because I can’t imagine typing while trying to do that at least nowadays, one hand has to hold things up with my forearm to provide support and to stop motion and that’s even while laying at my side 😂
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Munchies   United States
Joined 4 years
Munchies:
I mean, becoming financially stable is important, but that's not nearly enough.

AskDrFeeder:
Never said it was. And I agree that people often place too much importance to money.

My point is that in the absence of a feedee or feedee candidate, one thing a feeder can do is get their financial house in order, to facilitate a feedist relationship should one come along.

Money can't buy happiness, but poverty can't buy anything.[/quote]

All I'm saying is that while fixing your finances is good general advice, it's incomplete advice for novice feeders that can lead to them forming incorrect conclusions.

I see it happen all the time. Someone (usually a guy, but not always) will lament how hard it is to find a romantic and/or sexual partner. Then someone will give them advice that's not bad but is more general stuff they should be doing anyway. Common examples include saving/investing money or having basic hygiene.

This leads to the original person interpreting the advice in one of two ways. Either they see it as a way to get what they want or that they should abandon their original goal in favor of following the advice. Often, the advice giver doesn't mean it this way. But since they inadvertently framed this advice as the solution to the problem, it's understandable how someone might think this way.
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JohnT   United Kingdom
Joined 1 year
Ex Jock:
It’s really hard to find a feedee. I think that’s why so many of us go from feeder to gainer; to become our own feedee out of lack of options, but still wanting to act out the kink

I would never be tempted to become a feedee or a gainer. The eating part has absolutely no interest to me. It’s the control aspect of it, having control over someone who has let herself go to the point she’s so massive she can’t lead a normal life
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