General

AskDrFeeder:
You are not the only one. It's hard to find the right person, but hang in there. And while you wait, get your financial house in order. There are few better feeders than ones who can easily afford food, clothes, plane tickets and such.

Munchies:
I mean, becoming financially stable is important, but that's not nearly enough. Many (usually male) feeders mistake being financially stable and monetarily generous for being someone worthy of spending time with.

Besides, despite guys griping about the contrary, there are many (usually female) feedees who refuse money from unfamiliar feeders because they will take that as them owing them for things they don't want. For example, because a feeder paid a feedee for food, they owe them nudes.

In my experience, the best way to get into a feedist relationship is to be someone they can be vulnerable with and not have your fetish as the main/sole part of your relationship. This should be a person you can at least see yourself being friends with.

Tightercollars:
this cant be honest enough. i talk alot now with my partner about the fantasy aspects within feederism and how reality in a relationship works. At fantasy feeder, the community feels like it put the fetish first and thats the impression ive gotten with the interactions ive recieved and thats not where growing relationships start. romantic or not.

Morbidly A Beast:
If you can’t find a feedee just find a fat person you like to spend time with and date them, so many “feeders” want the process and not fat people, it’s a similar thing with people who complain about sexual promiscuity while at the same time will have promiscuous sex (not that sex is a bad thing, rather people who complain)

There’s a lot of fat people, men and women who deserve and should get love but are outshined by thins who gain 10-15 lbs

Morbidly A Beast:
If you can’t find a feedee just find a fat person you like to spend time with and date them, so many “feeders” want the process and not fat people, it’s a similar thing with people who complain about sexual promiscuity while at the same time will have promiscuous sex (not that sex is a bad thing, rather people who complain)

There’s a lot of fat people, men and women who deserve and should get love but are outshined by thins who gain 10-15 lbs

Munchies:
Is that the case? In my experience, most feeders want someone who is at least chubby.

Morbidly A Beast:
If you can’t find a feedee just find a fat person you like to spend time with and date them, so many “feeders” want the process and not fat people, it’s a similar thing with people who complain about sexual promiscuity while at the same time will have promiscuous sex (not that sex is a bad thing, rather people who complain)

There’s a lot of fat people, men and women who deserve and should get love but are outshined by thins who gain 10-15 lbs

Munchies:
Is that the case? In my experience, most feeders want someone who is at least chubby.

Morbidly A Beast:
Just seems that way given how the most popular models are some gorgeous women who gain a few lbs. and the general idea about it being “hard to find a feedee”

I know from interactions most female feeders want their men big but most of the time men want to make a fatty like it’s build a bear or something

Morbidly A Beast:
If you can’t find a feedee just find a fat person you like to spend time with and date them, so many “feeders” want the process and not fat people, it’s a similar thing with people who complain about sexual promiscuity while at the same time will have promiscuous sex (not that sex is a bad thing, rather people who complain)

There’s a lot of fat people, men and women who deserve and should get love but are outshined by thins who gain 10-15 lbs

Munchies:
Is that the case? In my experience, most feeders want someone who is at least chubby.

Morbidly A Beast:
Just seems that way given how the most popular models are some gorgeous women who gain a few lbs. and the general idea about it being “hard to find a feedee”

I know from interactions most female feeders want their men big but most of the time men want to make a fatty like it’s build a bear or something

Munchies:
I do love me a big man.

However, that's not why it's so hard for a lot of male feeders to find a female feedee. In fact, female feedees tell people why it's hard for them to find someone all the time.

It's because so many of them suck as people. I'm not even a feedee and I regularly encounter male feeders who clearly are typing with their left hand, are pushy, mean, objectifying, or have serial killer vibes. It's genuinely terrifying sometimes.

So if you are a genuinely good person, understand it's going to be hard no matter what you do. There are so many guarded, jaded female feedees out there who will keep you at arm's length for a while for safety reasons alone.