Lifestyle tips

What is she comfortable doing? I can't see someone who isn't into feedism being comfortable with some of the things you are suggesting.

Is she fine with you engaging in your kink outside of her? I don't mean finding a mistress, but there are other things you can do.

I have a much higher libido than my partner as well as having kinks he isn't interested in. I channel this in a lot of ways. I play fetish games, watch porn, fantasize about things during my me time, and write erotica.

I don’t know. She won’t really tell me. I love her and have even tried to suppress it but it usually just comes back even stronger. She doesn’t like the thought of me looking at porn. And a lot of people on her want something more than just some playful role play. And some just want you damn money.But what kinda of games?

Try asking her this:

What am I doing that you like? What do you wish I did more often? What's something you wish I'd stop doing?

Start with the basics, and you can expand the conversation from there. It sounds like she feels put on the spot. I'm not saying you are doing this on purpose, but she seems shy about this topic. Focus on intimacy rather than pleasure and go from there. She sounds like the sort of person who values the emotional connection more than being adventurous.

As for the games, it depends. Not going to make any recommendations, but you can check out DeviantArt and Itchio.

Thank you. Sometimes it helps to have a female voice.