General

MariRadha:
For paraphilias this might work:
- retraining in a fetish you both like. Replacing one with a new one
- sexual transmutation techniques from yoga were you sublimate your desires and only have sex with your gf
-if all else fails SSRI and other meds lower libido and lower paraphilia urges

Munchies:
When my partner and I were actively fattening him up, I'd say feedism completely enmeshed in our sex lives. So when he wanted to pump the breaks, we had to change up how we did sexy times. Tried new positions and techniques. Really leaned into body exploration as well as getting lost in each other rather than his belly.

He also discovered he really loves making me lost in my pleasure - even at the expense of his own. I'm not complaining.

MariRadha:
Sounds like a much healthier sexuality

Munchies:
It's all about finding your balance. Don't get me wrong, we still enjoy stuffing him, but there are also other things we enjoy as well.

For example, instead of stuffing him when he isn't in the mood to be stuffed, I might hand feed him something instead. One time while we were cuddling, I fed him a fancy chocolate bar. Another time, when we were in a cafe, I fed him something from my plate he had never tried before.

Kacchan:
Feeder Foreplay for the win!!!

Morbidly A Beast:
I feel like intensity comes and goes so often for me for this fetish, I am just a vanilla fat person a majority of the time but there’s some times where I’m completely head over heels and wanna be like 900 lbs as soon as possible and be stuffed to the rafters every meal

I’m not sure if a feeder has the same mentality or not, I don’t relate to that side of at all. Obviously our horny is a bit different than vanilla horny but I’m talking about extended periods of time

Munchies:
As a feeder, I can confirm that we do.

I'm a pretty kinky, horny person as a general rule of thumb. (Bless my poor partner, but it's a good problem to have.) But sometimes I have an extremely intense urge to feed someone.

This was more of a problem when I was single as I had no one to feed. Mind you, this is a different feeling that cooking for someone. What I wanted was the intimate, chaotic feeling when you personally feed someone by hand and feel the way their stomach expands under your hand. I turned to erotica writing to help express these pent up feelings.

Things are better with a feedee, but just because you are in the mood doesn't mean they are in the mood. And so you gotta find a healthy outlet.

Munchies:
As a feeder, I can confirm that we do.

I'm a pretty kinky, horny person as a general rule of thumb. (Bless my poor partner, but it's a good problem to have.) But sometimes I have an extremely intense urge to feed someone.

This was more of a problem when I was single as I had no one to feed. Mind you, this is a different feeling that cooking for someone. What I wanted was the intimate, chaotic feeling when you personally feed someone by hand and feel the way their stomach expands under your hand. I turned to erotica writing to help express these pent up feelings.

Things are better with a feedee, but just because you are in the mood doesn't mean they are in the mood. And so you gotta find a healthy outlet.

Morbidly A Beast:
That’s interesting that it exists on both sides, do you know what triggers it after you haven’t had that mood for a while? Or is it always there.

I get what you mean about the chaotic feeling it’s times like that where I can really really put down some food lol

Munchies:
As a feeder, I can confirm that we do.

I'm a pretty kinky, horny person as a general rule of thumb. (Bless my poor partner, but it's a good problem to have.) But sometimes I have an extremely intense urge to feed someone.

This was more of a problem when I was single as I had no one to feed. Mind you, this is a different feeling that cooking for someone. What I wanted was the intimate, chaotic feeling when you personally feed someone by hand and feel the way their stomach expands under your hand. I turned to erotica writing to help express these pent up feelings.

Things are better with a feedee, but just because you are in the mood doesn't mean they are in the mood. And so you gotta find a healthy outlet.

Morbidly A Beast:
That’s interesting that it exists on both sides, do you know what triggers it after you haven’t had that mood for a while? Or is it always there.

I get what you mean about the chaotic feeling it’s times like that where I can really really put down some food lol

Munchies:
I have a lot of kinks and fetishes. My moods and desires for them cycle around. Believe it or not, there are times when I am wholely uninterested in feedism.

That said, my feedist feelings can be particularly strong if I haven't had an outlet for them in a while, I've steeped myself into the kink, or my partner is looking particularly fat and sexy that day. It depends on my whim.