Fat experiences

Anjou:
As someone who meant the love of her life at work, as well as having worked in HR in the past, it really depends what you mean by “flirting”?

Munchies:
Plus it's not as simple as getting enthusiastic consent. There's power dynamics and conflicts of interest to keep in mind too.

So while there are ways to make it work, it is a very careful game you have to play. You have to keep everything above board as it can impact both of your career paths. It can determine which departments you can work in, what promotions you get, or what teams you work on. I've seen some jobs that make you sign paperwork when it gets serious.

And don't even get me started on the potential fall out if it doesn't work out.

This isn't any shade towards you, Anjou. You and your husband seem to have a lovely relationship. But as a fellow former HR rep, I'm sure you have seen more failures than successes.

Anjou:
I would be lying to say I didn’t bake the whole office cookies without certain thoughts of someone getting too fat for their suit

Anjou:
I would be lying to say I didn’t bake the whole office cookies without certain thoughts of someone getting too fat for their suit

Munchies:
Husband wife shenanigans.

Anjou:
I would be lying to say I didn’t bake the whole office cookies without certain thoughts of someone getting too fat for their suit

Munchies:
Husband wife shenanigans.

Anjou:
Maybe. But...in my defense...,I think everyone one looks better with a roll, or two, or ten, of lush fat fat around their middle...
Surely Munchies, being the good Sourthern woman that you are, have fed your coworkers?

Anjou:
I would be lying to say I didn’t bake the whole office cookies without certain thoughts of someone getting too fat for their suit

Munchies:
Husband wife shenanigans.

Anjou:
Maybe. But...in my defense...,I think everyone one looks better with a roll, or two, or ten, of lush fat fat around their middle...
Surely Munchies, being the good Sourthern woman that you are, have fed your coworkers?

Munchies:
I am not a good representative for that. You see, despite my general demeanor, I look a lot younger than I actually am. This leads me to often being seen as a work daughter. So they keep feeding me.

I've gone home with bags of snacks more than once.

Anjou:
I would be lying to say I didn’t bake the whole office cookies without certain thoughts of someone getting too fat for their suit

Boops Boops:
Flirting is now harassment.

Munchies:
It can be, and I am shocked that you were unaware.

I remember this one job I used to work at. This was in person before the plague. We had a high turnover, so there were a lot of male new hires who came through.

I got hit on a lot. It was gross. It was creepy. I felt so unsafe. One time, a supervisor in another department started hitting on me because he liked how I filled out my clothes (I was dressed modestly, but I am still a curvy woman.)

I reported him to HR, and he was fired shortly after. I found out through the grapevine that he would hit on his subordinates a lot. Several women had reported him, but nothing was done until he stepped outside of his department to hit on me.

I've worked in HR before. Once in a call center and once in a University. I can promise you that you can be disciplined if you hit on someone and they report you to HR. I've seen demotions, suspensions, and terminations.

Please tell me that you aren't doing this to your coworkers because that is classifiable as sexual assault.

And yes, this happens to men too. I had a work buddy who's female boss kept hitting on him. Woman would not take no for an answer. It nearly became a lawsuit for creating a hostile work environment, so the company fired her.

Boops Boops:
Flirting is now harassment.

Munchies:
It can be, and I am shocked that you were unaware.

I remember this one job I used to work at. This was in person before the plague. We had a high turnover, so there were a lot of male new hires who came through.

I got hit on a lot. It was gross. It was creepy. I felt so unsafe. One time, a supervisor in another department started hitting on me because he liked how I filled out my clothes (I was dressed modestly, but I am still a curvy woman.)

I reported him to HR, and he was fired shortly after. I found out through the grapevine that he would hit on his subordinates a lot. Several women had reported him, but nothing was done until he stepped outside of his department to hit on me.

I've worked in HR before. Once in a call center and once in a University. I can promise you that you can be disciplined if you hit on someone and they report you to HR. I've seen demotions, suspensions, and terminations.

Please tell me that you aren't doing this to your coworkers because that is classifiable as sexual assault.

And yes, this happens to men too. I had a work buddy who's female boss kept hitting on him. Woman would not take no for an answer. It nearly became a lawsuit for creating a hostile work environment, so the company fired her.

Zampano777:
you're just assuming things that she hasn't even written.🙄