Donutgirl89:
I’m in a very similar position to you. I work remotely but occasionally have to attend in person.
I centred my discussion with HR around mobility rather than obesity. You’ll find that as long as they can accommodate your scooter (I gave the dimensions of mine) that you’ll be ok but what I found is that often I have to stay in the scooter either because I can’t always transfer in and out easily on my own, or because the seating just isn’t suitable.
My situation is maybe a bit easier because I use adult diapers most of the time anyway. But if you are driving, is it possible to take your toilet seat with you to have in your hotel room? But yes, that is an issue that came up a lot for me that without special equipment, I can’t use the restroom independently
I’m impressed by your determination - I’d probably struggle to even pick up the phone to HR if I was in that situation! I think being chilled out about your restrictions yourself is probably half the battle.
I assume these in-person work events don’t require you to stay overnight though - as presumably you need a carer/partner/nurse to help you change at the end of the day & that isn’t possible if they can’t accompany you, no?
Also, are you American originally (we rarely say restroom & diaper here)?
Or were you just using American terms because they’re more widely understood for the international audience on a site like this?
