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Eugh, I can't stand that crowd. Had an iron grip that seems to be coming back.

I remember being 115 (underweight for my height of 5'7" and being told I needed to lose 5 lbs because I was too heavy.

I hate how feedism stuff is always portrayed as a kind of BDSM-offshoot. Like "Oh, he's only feeding her so she'll be helpless! No other reason!"

It's like they can't even conceive of the notion that a woman would want to get fatter for fatness' sake, vs it just being a power-dynamic thing.

People see feedism as men making women fat as a way to extort power over them. This, of course not only erases mutual gainers, queer gainers, bhms, and ffas, but it also does not accurately express feedism.

Can power play be a part of it? Yes. But I find most feedists are not into any aspect of BDSM.

Munchies:
I'm being nosy. What's the one episode.

Unless it's a horror podcast or Sawbones, I don't really be listening to podcasts like that.[/quote]

DTT: Trans Fats are Good for You (w/translaardvak & addiction_to_chewing), posted about a month ago.

Jigglephysicist:
This is the only way I ever see it portrayed. The feeder (usually a man) is just manipulating the feedee (usually a woman) and the feedee has zero agency. They're just a victim who's being controlled and the feeder is insecure and making them fat to trap them in the relationship. It breaks peoples' brains to think someone would actually want that.[/quote]

There's only two examples I can think of that go against the grain, but even then only one really breaks the mold. One is of a sapphic couple, but since one is a trans woman most people in the comments use transphobia to make it fit the narrative. The other one is a female feeder and male gainer, but most of the comments are exactly the same.

Jigglephysicist:
This is the only way I ever see it portrayed. The feeder (usually a man) is just manipulating the feedee (usually a woman) and the feedee has zero agency. They're just a victim who's being controlled and the feeder is insecure and making them fat to trap them in the relationship. It breaks peoples' brains to think someone would actually want that.

Addiction To Chewing:
There's only two examples I can think of that go against the grain, but even then only one really breaks the mold. One is of a sapphic couple, but since one is a trans woman most people in the comments use transphobia to make it fit the narrative. The other one is a female feeder and male gainer, but most of the comments are exactly the same.[/quote]

Interesting.

As a female gainer with a male feedee, my girl experience is kinda praised. Like "You're such a good woman for standing by your man when he's this big. And you are such a good girlfriend for cooking for him."

They cannot wrap their heads around a woman purposefully fattening a man up for personal pleasure. Most of the intentional stories you hear about are from insecure women who want to make their man too ugly to cheat.

My first exposure to feederism was through a YouTube video and the two people were on the EXTREME side of harmful feederism. It was not a consensual relationship so it was actually harmful. I was very turned off and didn't think it was for me. Then I stumbled upon it in someone's profile and quickly discovered the empowering side of this world. I'm glad I gave it another chance because I've made some strong connections in the last few months.

No offence but that is so little weight considered height because 5,7 is pretty tall for a woman. You were really slim & glad that you didn't lose anymore or fell that hole.

Really well said and ratio between FFA to male gainers, BHM:s are really rare / really few. Hopefully it will chance in the future.

In terms of the media, here in the UK, there was a documentary released regarding the different aspects of sex, and it covered feedism in an episode, which I thought was done quite tastefully!
They use to have the full episode up on Youtube, but obviously took it down. There is a short clip of it here:

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