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How about all Thinsinapiration crap that people are glorifying on internet & on these women over size 3 are considered obese whales by this movement.

Eugh, I can't stand that crowd. Had an iron grip that seems to be coming back.

I remember being 115 (underweight for my height of 5'7" and being told I needed to lose 5 lbs because I was too heavy.

I hate how feedism stuff is always portrayed as a kind of BDSM-offshoot. Like "Oh, he's only feeding her so she'll be helpless! No other reason!"

It's like they can't even conceive of the notion that a woman would want to get fatter for fatness' sake, vs it just being a power-dynamic thing.

I'm game making this a thing. Every time there is thinspo stuff, going negative on it. It messed with a lot of people's mindset when it was around nearly 20 years ago. We shouldn't be promoting this again.

People see feedism as men making women fat as a way to extort power over them. This, of course not only erases mutual gainers, queer gainers, bhms, and ffas, but it also does not accurately express feedism.

Can power play be a part of it? Yes. But I find most feedists are not into any aspect of BDSM.

This is the only way I ever see it portrayed. The feeder (usually a man) is just manipulating the feedee (usually a woman) and the feedee has zero agency. They're just a victim who's being controlled and the feeder is insecure and making them fat to trap them in the relationship. It breaks peoples' brains to think someone would actually want that.

Munchies:
I'm being nosy. What's the one episode.

Unless it's a horror podcast or Sawbones, I don't really be listening to podcasts like that.[/quote]

DTT: Trans Fats are Good for You (w/translaardvak & addiction_to_chewing), posted about a month ago.

Jigglephysicist:
This is the only way I ever see it portrayed. The feeder (usually a man) is just manipulating the feedee (usually a woman) and the feedee has zero agency. They're just a victim who's being controlled and the feeder is insecure and making them fat to trap them in the relationship. It breaks peoples' brains to think someone would actually want that.[/quote]

There's only two examples I can think of that go against the grain, but even then only one really breaks the mold. One is of a sapphic couple, but since one is a trans woman most people in the comments use transphobia to make it fit the narrative. The other one is a female feeder and male gainer, but most of the comments are exactly the same.

Jigglephysicist:
This is the only way I ever see it portrayed. The feeder (usually a man) is just manipulating the feedee (usually a woman) and the feedee has zero agency. They're just a victim who's being controlled and the feeder is insecure and making them fat to trap them in the relationship. It breaks peoples' brains to think someone would actually want that.

Addiction To Chewing:
There's only two examples I can think of that go against the grain, but even then only one really breaks the mold. One is of a sapphic couple, but since one is a trans woman most people in the comments use transphobia to make it fit the narrative. The other one is a female feeder and male gainer, but most of the comments are exactly the same.[/quote]

Interesting.

As a female gainer with a male feedee, my girl experience is kinda praised. Like "You're such a good woman for standing by your man when he's this big. And you are such a good girlfriend for cooking for him."

They cannot wrap their heads around a woman purposefully fattening a man up for personal pleasure. Most of the intentional stories you hear about are from insecure women who want to make their man too ugly to cheat.

It doesn't seem like there's any winning is there? I guess people just don't understand feedism when they're on the outside looking in so they try to rationalize it any way they can and it's rarely good. I think I've seen maybe one instance with a male feedee and it definitely wasn't seen as mainpulative as the other way around.