So many things resonate here, i can’t even begin quoting everyone back and responding specifically.
I’m in the average/thin body, tending stressy camp, but have small touches of fat of my own.
In terms of experiencing fat on other people, it is pretty much a life necessity for me. This first became really clear when i attended what was basically a house party the day after Thanksgiving in 2019 (Feabie event). It was only my third or fourth-ever in-person event in the fatosphere. A lot of models were going to be there (mostly Big Cuties). I was legit concerned about being too sexually aroused.
What actually happened directly relates to this discussion: instead of aroused, i felt a tremendous sense of relaxation and safety, as well as coming home to a family i’d never truly known. I wasn’t even touching anyone for the most part: the mere proximity to fat people (esp. women in my case, but some of the men there too) brought calmness and serenity. Hugs that were offered from time to time during the evening amplified these effects greatly.
Since that time, i have learned that i tend to get stuck in a sympathetic nervous system (fight/flight/freeze/panic) pattern. Immersively deep thoughts of fatness (e.g. story writing i did in the past), being around very fat people, and especially feeling a fat person‘s fat all get me out of sympathetic into the parasympathetic nervous system (relaxation, serenity).
Most of the time (not always), if i’m agitated and my superfat love puts her fat leg over me, it’s like throwing a switch into relaxation, or at least calming down—very quick response. If it’s not fully working, she encourages me to feel her fat (anywhere), and that additional calming connection often gets me the rest of the way into parasympathetic.
In terms of cuddling in general (not restricted to fatness, but i think likely better with it), A Midwestern Doctor in the article How to Improve Zeta Potential and Liquid Crystalline Water Inside the Body notes:
“Many have also argued that the infrared you receive from cuddling with another human (and possibly an animal) may also facilitate the development of liquid crystalline water inside you. That said, I am honestly not sure how this effect could be quantified.”
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What little fat there is on my own body tends to be more exciting than calming, yet sometimes both. Mostly flabby buns, which i sometimes play with in a stress ball relaxation-like way, or just because it feels nice.
My Love knows how much i wish i could be very fat like her, which for various reasons is not real-world possible. She gets her own joy and additionally makes me happy when she notices jiggly parts on me and plays with them.
Thanks to the OP for starting this, and everyone who’s posted in this discussion. I can very much relate!
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