General

Louiefat:
I've been open about my preferences since middle school. Which did no go over well. That being said, FA's are 'so closeted' because they've been told they're mentally ill monsters their entire lives, and over half the fat girls they are attracted to and approach to tend to agree.

c00kie:
Do people still get hit on in public? I thought everyone only dated online these days haha...

Seriously though to the OP... I have experienced the same thing, or had a lack of experience of this. Usually the only time it happens is when people are doing the 'pull a pig' joke or it's back handed flirtation, 'you're pretty for a big girl', which puts me off instantly.

I always felt that it was a shame thing on part of the FA. Although they like you and like big guys and gals... They don't want friends or family to know. It's easy for them to hide their preference if they are not already big themselves... and like some of the other posters have put... They can continue fitting into the norm and not be ridiculed, unlike fat people who have to deal with it on a daily basis.

I promised myself a long time ago and I think you should do something similar... I won't date anyone who is ashamed of me. Regardless of size or any other feature about myself physical or otherwise. Do not date closet FA's... It does not make for a good relationship. You wont feel fulfilled, you wont feel good enough, and it will take a toll on your self worth.

I know that seems a little negative but that's the way the c00kie crumbles!

NogutNoglory:
I think that is a great standard to have! You should never date anyone who is ashamed of you!

My answer to this question in short is most guys don’t have balls, period. It’s pathetic. Who are they hanging out with that is so judgmental? Like maybe get some new friends?

seven8the9:
I'm a fat girl and over the years, the fact that less people have hit on me in public has taken a toll on my confidence. Now that I'm older , I know better (most of the time) that there ARE people out there that prefer bigger, fatter bodies.

Why are you all so quiet about it in real life?!

I mean, of course there are the societal norms and pressures... but could someone explain it to me simply, laymen terms?

Loveafatpiggy:
as much to what Namaste said a good reason and is ture for most I sure is its not acceptable by society is to find obese or obesity sexy.

personally for me I find even admitting anywhere that be publicly or even online your are female fat admirer is difficulty and you always get hate and shamed for finding, individuals that are big beautifully.

So I really try to keep this part of my identity and life in friendly and safe spaces such as this site and others although others like Feabie and a few others are totally toxic and full of haters.

Meepmeep:
Location, location, location.
In bigger cities with the fat acceptance movement you have more leeway. I openly tell people I don't mind bigger girls at work and get chuckles. You do have alot of pushback from people who feel it is being forced upon them with billboards and shaming and although it is a small percentage I do see it. If a man in Chicago explain to your average woman here that he rejected a woman even respectfully for just a few too many pounds he is satan incarnate. Can't speak on much more as far as personal experience goes. I was in the closet because people instantly associated my love for bigger girls with the crazies that expect forced gains against their will.

One girl I knew in highschool told people I forced her to gain weight even though I never saw her outside of school to feed her because of family issues. She didn't have a problem with me liking big girls when she was the one I liked. I was respectful of her even when being intimate, never shamed her in either direction. You preferences can be a liability later, like bdsm into domestic abuse. Not saying every claim is fake, nor am I saying it is the vast majority of people just be aware that it does happen.

Namaste:
Because its not acceptable by society to find fat bodies beautiful.

Though saying that if you openly admit your a fat admirer in public. Chances are you will be branded a fetishit. So I really keep my fat admiration to fat safe spaces such as fantasy feeder.